During the holiday season, several of my loved ones have lost those who are very dear to them. Five of my friends have had family members or friends pass away. And a few famous people who meant a lot to me have also died. So this holiday time is very bittersweet.
I have been sad and it has had me thinking about the dash. In all of our lives there is a date we are born, then the dash, and the year that we die. None of us knows when that second date will be, but we can make the most of our dash.
We can make the most of our life, enjoy the time with our friends and family, try new things, and take risks. And, we can be blessings to one another, spend time with those we love, tell them that we love them, and live our lives to the fullest. We can exercise, eat those foods we enjoy, walk in the rain, sing to a favorite song, hug each other, and so much more.
As my friend Gordon D. used to say, never be a grave hugger. I learned this in my early twenties and it has stuck with me all of these years. His point was to never leave something unsaid, and to be sure to resolve arguments and problems as much as you possibly can. He didn’t want his friends to have regrets when someone they love passes away.
I try to live this way and make the most of my time with friends and family. But, I cannot do everything and sometimes have to say no. And, I am not the best at keeping in touch with people or finishing every task. For example, I have finished writing the Christmas cards but still have to buy stamps and mail them. Tomorrow, we will do that.
May we find a way to enjoy our dash and have a great life. May we help those we love to also have a great life. May we love, forgive, and actually be involved in life. We are not spectators after all, but active participants.
May we not wish our lives away or wish we could go back. May we savor each moment and keep going. May we help those grieving and realize they need time and lots of love. There is no right way to grieve or no right time frame. May we be there for one another.
Quotes about making the most of our life:
- “Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of.” ~ Charles Richards
- “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” ~ Wayne Dyer
- “Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” ~ Braveheart
- “You may delay, but time will not.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
- “Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.” ~ James Dean
- “The important thing is not how many years in your life but how much life in your years.” ~ Edward J. Stieglitz
To those dealing with grief, may you be comforted and have fond memories. And, may we remember to be there as needed and to always love.