Hi Ian’s Mom

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAThis morning one of Ian’s friends said, “Hi Ian’s Mom” to me in the hallway before school.  He had to speak up since I didn’t see him at first.  I said hello in return and smiled.  We then  each went our separate ways.

This friend was in the same 1st grade class as Ian, but this year is in a different class.  They are in Cub Scouts together so we still see him. That is nice for Ian and for me since I like this young man.

Ian’s Mom is who I am known as at Ian’s school and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Kids call me that as well as some of the parents.  His friends in his Cub Scout den also call me that.  Other parents, and the teachers and staff know me as Patti and the PTO secretary.

I love being his mom and love him so very much.  I love that he has made friends and continues to do so.  I love that he enjoys going to school.  He is such a sweet boy and so much fun to know and listen to.  Kirk and I are truly blessed to be his parents.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAIn two days, we will celebrate Ian’s birthday.  He will be 8 years old.  Wow, our sweet baby is really growing up.

The changes that have occurred in his lifetime are just amazing.  He went from crawling, to walking, to running.  From no speech to early words to talking endlessly some days.  He went from thinking he would never learn to read, to reading toddler books, to recently finishing “James and The Giant Peach.”

He now wakes himself up, makes his breakfast, and gets himself ready for school.  He has an alarm set to help him wake up.  So far so good with that.  Next week though is fall break and I told him we won’t be using the alarm clock.  He reluctantly said okay.

Our boy is a young man now.  He is getting very tall and outgrowing clothing and shoes. In the mornings, I often ask him if he has had his growing machine on at night.  He laughs and says, “No Mom.  I am just growing.”

n539281610_366595_2660Before that day 8 years ago, I never knew how much love I had to give.  I didn’t know that I could put someone else’s needs before my own with middle of the night feedings and lack of sleep.  I didn’t realize that someone would be listening and carefully watching all that I do in order to learn for himself.  I didn’t realize that my heart would live outside my body in such a small yet amazing package.

The job of parents is daunting and very hard at times.  After all, our job is to love them, teach them how to behave, to be kind to others, and provide them with discipline.  Then when they are grown, to prepare them for the outside world and eventually say goodbye and leave our home.

It is also the most fulfilling and precious time of my life, of my life with Kirk as co-parents on this journey.  We want the best for our son and do all we can to provide that.  Not only with money and material things, but in special moments and times together, and creating memories.  We listen to him when he talks to us and live in the moment with him.

I teach Ian many things but he continues to teach me each and every day.  From him, I have learned to live in the moment.  I have learned to be truly thankful for each day.  I have learned what love truly is all about.  Ian, I thank you for that and am so proud that you call me Mom.  Your Dad and I love so so very much!

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

Mom and Dad.weddingToday, June 18, is my parent’s anniversary.

Happy Anniversary to you Mom and Dad!

Here they are as young adults on the day of their wedding.  Aren’t they a fine-looking couple?  I sure think so!

They have taught me about real and unconditional love.

They have taught me about compromise, faith, forgiveness, happiness, and what a family bond is.

The have taught me about the importance of spending quality time with family and friends.

They have also taught me how to be a loving and kind spouse and a loving parent who disciplines and teaches with love.

I thank them and appreciate their example!!

I love that they are still crazy about each other and love to spend time together.

They also love to spend time with family, friends, and especially their grandchildren.

It is a real blessing to be a part of this family!!

Here are a few quotes about Anniversaries.  Enjoy!

  • “An anniversary is a time to celebrate the joys of today, the memories of yesterday, and the hopes of tomorrow.”  ~Author Unknown
  • “True love stories never have endings.”  ~Richard Bach
  • “To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule:  Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room.  Good fire, good marriage, same rule.”  ~Marnie Reed Crowell
  • “Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.”  ~Author Unknown

Congrats to these oldyweds!  Love you both so much!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hello and Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!  Hope you have a great day today!!

I wanted to post A Thanksgiving Prayer that my grandfather, Dr. James Richmond Barbour, wrote in November 1951.   He was an educator, writer, psychologist, and fantastic grandpa.  Here is a photo of me with him when I was a toddler.

A Thanksgiving Prayer was published in Grandpa’s “A Parent’s Corner” column in the San Diego Evening Tribune newspaper.  I hope that it will bless you as much as it does me!

“Our Father-God we thank thee –

  • For the ringing laughter of our children playing, for their giggles, and the moist throaty chuckles of our babies.
  • For the tender weight of a sleeping child in our arms, and the trust of a tired son who rests his head upon our shoulder, and sleeps
  • For the joy we feel in baby’s first tooth, first word, first step, and the thrill of the grown-up child who marries
  • For the exultant communion with our teen-ones when we dive together into the clean cold surf at dawn, and stand with them silently at sunset drinking glory from the cloud-studded sky
  • For small boys on tricycles, or on hands and knees in the sandbox pushing toy trucks and making man-noises
  • For tomboy girls streaking across the lawn, swinging on rings, or whirling like pinwheels on turning bars
  • For the wonder of the sensitive face of a half-grown child as she listens to a great organ for the first time, or watches a symphony orchestra
  • For the fun of family picnics, and vacation trips, and going fishing together
  • For the thrill we feel when a daughter stands before us in her first formal gown, and we realize that she is beautiful
  • For the joy of a child’s recovery from illness, and the relief we feel when we see an accident almost happen, but not quite
  • For the pressure of a timid child’s hands in ours as we walk together in the dark
  • For parenthood we thank thee.
  • And, our Father-God, to thee we pray for peace.  If it be thy will, grant that we may continue our lives together in the precious years to come.  Amen.”

Here is a photo of me with my Grandpa and Grandma in 1986.  This is how I remember them.

They had an amazing love for one another and for their family.  You can hear this love in this prayer about his children and their growing up years.  They had three girls and one boy.  My mother was the third daughter.  I am blessed and honored to be a part of this amazing family.  As I was typing it, I was tearing up thinking about both Grandpa and Grandma and this beautiful prayer that he wrote more than 50 years ago.

May you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!  I hope that you have many blessings to be thankful for and special people to share them with!!  God Bless!

Graduation Day

Congratulations Graduates!!

On Saturday afternoon, my husband’s family celebrated the high school graduation of one of our own.  My nephew (Kirk’s brother’s son) Jonathan graduated and it was a real celebration.

When I first met Jonathan, he was 5 years old — nearly the age that Ian is now.  He was into similar activities that Ian is — loving cars, and playing and just being a little boy.  He was the ring bearer at our wedding and looked adorable in his tuxedo.

As we were driving to the graduation, Kirk and I were talking about our wedding and that he was just starting school at that point.  Fast-forward 14 years and Jonathan is a fine young man with an exciting life ahead of him.

It is truly amazing how quickly time flies by.  We have a lot of memories with Jonathan and his parents and have so enjoyed spending time with them all of these years.

One year we were at the beach together and had a wonderful time.  Playing in the sand, making sand castles and sand animals, going to a parade, and eating cheese steak sandwiches are some of the highlights.

Despite the difference in their ages, Jonathan and Ian are buddies and get along very well.  They trade toy cars and when Ian was younger, they loved playing together.  They still do enjoy talking about trucks and cars.

For graduation this year, Ian decided to give a book to Jonathan about Tonka trucks.  This book was given by my sister to my brother’s oldest son, who then passed it along to Ian a few years ago.  On his own, Ian decided that he wanted his cousin to have it!  What a sweet and caring thing for Ian to do.  He knows that Jonathan likes the trucks as much as he does.  It is very special to know that this book is still in the family.

Graduation is truly an amazing time in one’s life — both for the graduates and the parents.  During the ceremony, I was watching Jonathan’s parents who were beaming with pride as their son received his diploma.  They have been great parents to him and have taught him so much!

Since my son hasn’t started school yet, it is hard for me to imagine this feeling.  Yet, I know it will be here in no time.  Once he starts school, the time will fly.  Lord, please help us along that journey!!

The graduation speaker said these words, “No one will care how much you know until they know how much you care.”  I really like these words and know they are great advice.

Here are few other graduation quotes that I found online:

“There is a good reason they call these ceremonies “commencement exercises.”  Graduation is not the end; it’s the beginning.”  ~Orrin Hatch

“The tassel’s worth the hassle!”  ~Author Unknown

“The future lies before you
Like a field of driven snow,
Be careful how you tread it,
For every step will show.”
~Author Unknown

For those of you graduating this year, whether from high school or college, I hope and pray that you will enjoy the next phase of your life and can look back on your growing up years as a fun time.  God Bless!