Hi Ian’s Mom

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAThis morning one of Ian’s friends said, “Hi Ian’s Mom” to me in the hallway before school.  He had to speak up since I didn’t see him at first.  I said hello in return and smiled.  We then  each went our separate ways.

This friend was in the same 1st grade class as Ian, but this year is in a different class.  They are in Cub Scouts together so we still see him. That is nice for Ian and for me since I like this young man.

Ian’s Mom is who I am known as at Ian’s school and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Kids call me that as well as some of the parents.  His friends in his Cub Scout den also call me that.  Other parents, and the teachers and staff know me as Patti and the PTO secretary.

I love being his mom and love him so very much.  I love that he has made friends and continues to do so.  I love that he enjoys going to school.  He is such a sweet boy and so much fun to know and listen to.  Kirk and I are truly blessed to be his parents.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAIn two days, we will celebrate Ian’s birthday.  He will be 8 years old.  Wow, our sweet baby is really growing up.

The changes that have occurred in his lifetime are just amazing.  He went from crawling, to walking, to running.  From no speech to early words to talking endlessly some days.  He went from thinking he would never learn to read, to reading toddler books, to recently finishing “James and The Giant Peach.”

He now wakes himself up, makes his breakfast, and gets himself ready for school.  He has an alarm set to help him wake up.  So far so good with that.  Next week though is fall break and I told him we won’t be using the alarm clock.  He reluctantly said okay.

Our boy is a young man now.  He is getting very tall and outgrowing clothing and shoes. In the mornings, I often ask him if he has had his growing machine on at night.  He laughs and says, “No Mom.  I am just growing.”

n539281610_366595_2660Before that day 8 years ago, I never knew how much love I had to give.  I didn’t know that I could put someone else’s needs before my own with middle of the night feedings and lack of sleep.  I didn’t realize that someone would be listening and carefully watching all that I do in order to learn for himself.  I didn’t realize that my heart would live outside my body in such a small yet amazing package.

The job of parents is daunting and very hard at times.  After all, our job is to love them, teach them how to behave, to be kind to others, and provide them with discipline.  Then when they are grown, to prepare them for the outside world and eventually say goodbye and leave our home.

It is also the most fulfilling and precious time of my life, of my life with Kirk as co-parents on this journey.  We want the best for our son and do all we can to provide that.  Not only with money and material things, but in special moments and times together, and creating memories.  We listen to him when he talks to us and live in the moment with him.

I teach Ian many things but he continues to teach me each and every day.  From him, I have learned to live in the moment.  I have learned to be truly thankful for each day.  I have learned what love truly is all about.  Ian, I thank you for that and am so proud that you call me Mom.  Your Dad and I love so so very much!

Throwback Thursday – My Heart

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERAHi and Happy Thursday!  Today’s Photo-A-Day Challenge is Heart.  This little guy has my heart.  Our sweet son is so precious to both my husband and me.  We love him so much. We have a special bond.  I am so appreciative of that and all that he is.

This photo was taken at San Diego Zoo many years ago.  This partial xylophone was in the kids section and Ian was having a great time trying to play it.  Maestro, ready, set, go!

I never realized how it would feel to have part of my heart walking around in this little person.  And, also realizing he has heard my heartbeat from the inside is quite profound.

Today I am thankful for:

  • A boy who still loves music as much as on this day at the zoo
  • My husband and son — the two loves of my life
  • My parents and siblings who I have known my entire life
  • Friends who make me laugh
  • Friends who I share a joke with
  • A friend going home from the hospital with good news
  • Family who I will get to see this summer
  • Other family who although I won’t see this year, we still keep in touch
  • A homemade mother’s day card
  • Amazing teachers who have meant so much to Ian this year
  • Friends made through school activities
  • Messy morning hair
  • Hugs and kisses
  • Hearing “I love you”
  • My many blessings

I wonder what fun things we will do with Ian this evening and upcoming weekend? I can’t wait to find out and enjoy being with my sweet boy.

Happy 7th Birthday Ian!!

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERASeven years ago at this time, I held a newborn baby boy in my arms. That morning, we met Ian Cates for the first time. So much has changed from that day to now. It is truly amazing. I have loved seeing Ian learn how to do things, discover the fun of reading, and share his own thoughts and ideas.

He is a sweet soul who cares about others, enjoys playing and having fun, enjoys special time with Mom and Dad, and time with his grandparents and other family, and loves to play and tell stories. It is hard to believe our boy is 7 years old today. My how those years have flown.

This morning before school, we put candles on his biscuit for breakfast. He enjoyed blowing them out and loved hearing me sing Happy Birthday to him. Tonight we are having a birthday dinner with family. He is excited about that as well.

He enjoys his birthday and enjoys making a big deal about it. He was appreciative about the gift we gave him this morning as well. “Thanks, Mom and Dad,” he said with a smile that stretched from ear to ear.

This picture was taken several months ago. It is amazing that now he looks more like a little man than a little boy. I am not exactly sure when that happened, but it certainly did.

Today I am thankful for:

  • A boy with dimples and a wonderful smile
  • Big blue eyes that are full of wonder and love
  • October 2 for that is the day we met this amazing boy
  • Hugs and hearing, “I love you Mom”
  • Ian appreciating a special gift
  • Making meals and sweet treats with a boy wearing an apron that is a little too big
  • Reading a hand-written note that says, “Mommy, I will love you forever”
  • Hearing Ian pray at meal time
  • Watching him play, discover, and learn

I never thought I could love someone as much as I love my hubby and our son. They are two amazing blessings who I am very thankful for. Today I will enjoy looking back on all the phases of our sweet birthday boy.

I wonder if I can savor each moment of Ian’s birthday?!  I plan to do just that and look forward to him getting out of school today.

Happy Mother’s Day!!!

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERATomorrow is Mother’s Day.  I decided to write this today since we will be busy tomorrow with a variety of activities. Happy early Mother’s Day!!!!!

I am blessed to know, love, and spend lots of time with my mother!  (Here I am last year with my mother and son at a Mother’s Day luncheon).

A special note to my Mom:

*Thanks Mom for all that you taught me and have done for me over the years!  And you still continue to do so much for me, and my husband, and our son.

*When I was a child, I didn’t appreciate you as I should have when you were at home helping us with all of our activities.  I suppose I took it for granted and didn’t know any better.  Now that I have my own son, I see what you did in a new light.  Now I appreciate all that you did to make my childhood so special.  Mom, I Love You so very much!!!

I also want to say Happy Mother’s Day to my mother-in-law, sister, sisters-in-law, cousins, aunts, nieces, and friends.   All of you are great mothers and people who I have learned a lot from.  It is so nice to have such strong women and great mothers in my circle of people.  You all rock!!!

1596Being a mother has been one of the most rewarding, yet most challenging things ever in my life.  I never expected to love my son as much as I do, or his daddy so much.

I never appreciated my own mother more than the first night we brought him home from the hospital.  And, even though I am a grown woman, I still want my mommy when I don’t feel well.

Moms are amazing and I am privileged to be a part of the mom club.

To my mother, I want to say thank you for:

  • Loving me as much as you did and still do
  • Teaching me the meaning of family
  • Showing love and what a marriage should be
  • Demonstrating a mother’s love and what it means
  • Providing discipline as it was needed
  • Encouraging me throughout my life
  • Passing along your love of music, reading, singing, and family time to me
  • Showing the importance of friendships and staying in regular touch
  • Sharing my motherhood adventure with me and my siblings
  • Being there when I have needed you

To my mother, the mothers in my family, and my friends who are moms, I love you all and am so glad to be on this mom adventure with you.  May you have a fun and blessed day!

Some quotes about motherhood:

  • “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” ~Marion C. Garretty
  • “A mother understands what a child does not say.” ~Author Unknown
  • “A mother’s heart is a patchwork of love.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly.” ~Ambrose Bierce
  • “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” ~Elizabeth Stone
  • “The phrase “working mother” is redundant.” ~Jane Sellman
  • “Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.” ~Lisa Alther
  • “Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing.” ~Toni Morrison
  • “Mommies are just big little girls.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Being a mother means that your heart is no longer yours; it wanders wherever your children do.” ~Author Unknown
  • “There’s nothing like a mama-hug.” ~Terri Guillemets
  • “Mother is a verb, not a noun.” ~Proverb
  • “Mom — the person most likely to write an autobiography and never mention herself.” ~Robert Brault
  • “The mother of boys work son-up to son-down.” ~Author Unknown

I wonder what new mothering adventures I will have with Ian.  I can’t wait to find out and have my friends and family with me.