Christmas. It is certainly looking a lot like Christmas. Decorations are up at stores, gifts are being purchased, music is on the radio including my favorite, Andy Williams — Happy Holidays and The Most Wonderful Time of the Year — and movies are playing often and have been since before Halloween.
However, it doesn’t quite look like it at our house. How about at your house? It is amazing that we are two weeks from this holiday. I don’t know about you but I am so not ready and the crazy thing is that I am not panicked or worried about it. I am doing a little bit at a time and hope I get there in time.
I seem to be more interested in being with my loved ones, rather than thinking through the gifts, cards, food, etc. So far, I am not very worked up about being so behind. I wonder if that will change as the date gets closer. After all in the last year, just functioning and getting out of the house on some days was a major effort.
We do have our advent calendars up, some festive mugs, and a few other things, but not the tree yet (these photos are from previous years). Last year, the tree was up but we never decorated it. I just couldn’t bring myself to after losing my husband. This year, Ian wants to decorate it and continue our traditions that didn’t happen last year. So, we will work on it this week.
Both of us are wanting to do our traditions again this year and that feels good. Our church recently presented a children’s program that was a lot of fun and Ian enjoyed it. Then lunch afterwards and a visit from Santa. A nice tradition that we have enjoyed for quite a while.
Over the weekend, I was thinking about writing about something other than just my grief and that felt good and at the same time, very strange. Even though I am writing about a few other subjects, it is still there and still here in this blog.
I am starting to feel more like myself again. Part of me feels guilty about that but I realize that I have to keep moving forward. My son needs me and I most certainly need him.
Although I feel like myself again, part of me is missing. Loss and grief are tough that way. I am healing but know that I will never be the same. I have learned a lot about myself, my loved ones, and what is most important. Those who have also lost loved ones can relate.
I also know that there is much to be thankful for and much to live for. Yet, some days, that is hard to remember and hard to accept. The grief and pain often finds a way to seep into the day, into our thoughts, and into what we are doing. The ups and downs continue and seem to be the new normal.
- Fuzzy socks make me happy and are things that I regularly wear at this time of year. I am normally a flip-flop person but with the colder weather, I do have to wear flat shoes and my socks. The softer and fluffier the better for me. I am not a high-heeled person.
- For my birthday, my cousin gave me a lovely plush blanket. It is soft and wonderful to sit under. Perfect for this time of year. I have it while reading a book, watching television, and taking a nap.
- Peppermint, mint chocolate, pumpkin, and gingerbread are some of my favorite flavors this time of year. I am trying to be careful to not overdo it but do enjoy a candy cane or two most days.
- Soups with bread or crackers are a regular staple at this time of year. I like a variety of them — tomato, chicken and rice, lentil, and more, and enjoy using large mugs for them.
- Pictures of my family and friends are some of my greatest treasures. I like to give them as gifts. A special memory means a lot to people.
- Comfort is very important to me and these things are helping to have that. During the winter, there is not much better than a warm drink, my warm socks, warm blanket, a tasty food or treat, and a favorite movie, book, or chat with Ian or another loved one. Perhaps the occasional glass of wine is also nice and sparkling water.
- I do like all of this warmth, unless I am having a hot flash and then it is a different story. Ha, ha, ha!! I am after all of a certain age.
- Simple things are what make me happy and I need down time and time to rest and just be. Ian and I both are homebodies and enjoy being there. We do also enjoy being with our loved ones and having overnight visits and special times with them.
- Music is also important to me. I have many favorite Christmas songs and other special music that I always want to listen to each year. Hymns and songs at our church are also very special. I often will sing along with the radio and enjoy them very much.
- My thoughts and prayers are with our family and friends. We want the best for them, want them to be healthy, to heal if hurting, and to know they are loved and appreciated.
- And finally, I do want peace on earth, really I do. I want us to be kinder to each other, to talk not yell, to listen without judgement, to love not hate, and to live peacefully together. And to treat one another with kindness.
Blessings to you and yours.