October Is Flying By

I cannot believe that it is almost the end of October. It seems like we just started this month and I have not written any blogs. Life has been busy and stressful so I haven’t taken the time to write. Sheesh.

Early this month, my son became a teenager. That was amazing and a fun day. We got to spend it outside with masks on with one of his dear friends who also became a teenager. Seeing our friends was good for my son and for me.

Also, this is the month that Kirk and I got married, so I am a bit sad with the memories of what could and should have been versus what actually is. I am blessed with lots of photos and memories and people to share our stories with. Still, along with the good, there is a bit of melancholy.

I have been extremely busy with work — in finishing last school year’s work and report cards for the students who we work with in the family business. I am also working on the current school year. In addition, my son had some school work that he did over break and continues to work on assignments. Plenty to do, that’s for sure.

On the good side, I have family and friends who celebrate birthdays this month and that is great. We are primarily celebrating at a distance which is I guess what we should be doing during a pandemic. Still it is hard to not be with loved ones during special times.

Medical procedures, sick family members and friends, and favorite pets having health issues are weighing on me as well. So I pray, cry as needed, and talk to our loved ones to get the latest information and know how to help them. Meditation, deep breathing, and walks also help. Seems there is always something, so I am trying to find ways to deal with them.

Along with the bad, there is a lot of good. So, this month I am thankful for:

  • My memories of the ocean and its splendor
  • Our time spent with family and friends at the beach
  • Fall break at home – we enjoyed it although it went by really fast 
  • Sleeping in before a busy day of work
  • Cooler weather so I can be outside more
  • Walks around our neighborhood
  • My son with all of his talents and gifts
  • Finishing one book series — Harry Potter for the second time
  • Starting a new book series that my son wanted me to read — Artemis Fowl
  • Hot tea and coffee
  • Soups and sandwiches or salads
  • Watching movies with a bowl of popcorn
  • Enjoying favorite comedies and laughing together
  • My family and friends — although we miss seeing most of them, they are loved
  • Working at home so I can watch over my son’s school work and time

I will try to write more in the upcoming weeks. It has just been a super busy month for us, despite primarily staying at home. May you stay safe and healthy! We are trying to do the same.

Happy New Year, I Think…

Happy New Year — I think…It is now 2020!  Can you believe that we are already one week into the new year?  I sure can’t since time is going so quickly.

It seems we just had time off for Christmas and now we are back to the routine of school and work again.  Thankfully, we had a good break with time for family, friends, some fun, and time to rest and regroup.

I want to say Happy New Year.  But I am not sure how happy it is for us or for many others.  My son and I continue to try to adjust to life without my husband/his dad.  We do still miss Kirk and always will.  We are able to talk about him now with some laughter and not just tears.  So that is really good.  Blessings in the smallest things feel like victories.

In addition, people we know are suffering with illnesses, deaths of loved ones, invasive treatments, chronic health issues, and so much more.  The pain is there and real and often hard to live with.  Each day can be a challenge and a battle.  Each day people may feel like giving up.

And, we have a serious conflict in the Middle East putting our military men and women at risk and other people as well, multiple earthquakes in Puerto Rico that suffered greatly from Hurricane Maria, airline crashes, and the fires across much of Australia.  So there are big and bad things to contend with and a lot of pain.

With all of this bad in the world and happening around us, it is easy to get caught up in it and be overwhelmed with sadness and pain and worry.  I must admit that I have some of that and imagine that many of us do.  My prayer is that despite all of the bad, we can remember that there is still good in the world.

People want to help each other — with meals, prayer groups, sitting with loved ones, traveling to fight fires or give support in other ways, and making booties or pouches for animals in harms way.  Also, babies are being born, people are being cured or at least finding ways to manage their illnesses, and comfort is being given.

Despite so much bad and evilness in the world, there is still good.  For that I am truly thankful.  “In spite of everything, I still feel that people are really good at heart,” said Anne Frank.  If she can believe that, I think there is hope for the rest of us.  After all, she endured terrible things that I cannot even imagine.

Another prayer is that we can come together to help one another, not just in times of crisis but at all times.  Also, that we remember that people we disagree with are not the enemy but just think differently than we do.  I hope and pray that we can once again learn from each other and be willing to listen, rather than jumping to conclusions or pre-judging one another.

As the new header photo shows, the light and the dark are often together.  This photo is that entire image.  And, the photo at the top of this blog is from Power Point clip art.

Often life is full of the good and the bad.  Some days it is easy to dwell on the dark or the bad, instead of remembering the light or the good.  I pray that we can remember the positive things in our lives.

I pray that we don’t get so mired down in the negative that we cannot see any positives.  I pray that when we are sad or mad, that we can feel that way and then know that it is okay to feel better.  Maybe not always good but often the combination of good and bad is realistic for the situations that we are sometimes in.

May God bless you and yours.  May we be there for each other.  May we listen to each other.  May we bear one another’s burdens.  May we not belittle the suffering of others but instead be supportive.  May we ask for help when we need it and know that doesn’t make us weak.  May we not judge others.  May we show compassion for others.  And, may we always, always love.

June 1st

I cannot believe it is the first day of June!  This year has truly flown by very quickly!

Isn’t it amazing we are already 6 months into the year??!

Despite the fact this was a holiday weekend and the first of summer, it hasn’t been the best week.  But it hasn’t been all bad.  Here are a few cruddy things that happened and a few good ones.

  • This week has been busy and unfortunately I have been sick with an ear infection.  This has been a rough year with lots of allergy problems.  Darn that pollen!
  • My thoughts and prayers are with a friend from college who may have to have another round of chemo.  She will know soon.  My prayers also go to several other friends who are having health issues.
  • A relative had his e-mail hacked.  A lot of people have been concerned about him and the note that the hacker sent out.  It really infuriates me that there are those who take pleasure and glee in being so wrong and mean to others. Hackers, you should be ashamed of yourself and be arrested!

Here’s to a better week next week!  I am going to focus on the fun of summer and be thankful for all of the good in my life and the lives of my family and friends. For example:

  • My mother made a great accomplishment in her therapy of her knee replacement!  Yeah Mom.
  •  I finished a wonderful book and started a new one.
  • I signed up for Weight Watchers this week to help in my weight loss journey!  And, have a great support system in place to help me stay on track.
  • A friend of mine has published a book that I can’t wait to read.

Please share some of the good and bad from your week!  We can then commiserate.

Here are a few quotes about June:

What is one to say about June, the time of perfect young summer, the fulfillment of the promise of the earlier months, and with as yet no sign to remind one that its fresh young beauty will ever fade.  ~Gertrude Jekyll

If a June night could talk, it would probably boast it invented romance.  ~Bern Williams

In June, as many as a dozen species may burst their buds on a single day.  No man can heed all of these anniversaries; no man can ignore all of them.  ~Aldo Leopold

Hope you have a great weekend and a wonderful June!