Dr. B’s Words of Wisdom

SRP.28_Patti.Dick.and.Artha.1986As my regular readers know, my blog is inspired by the stories of my wonderful grandfather, Dr. J.R.B.  He was an amazing storyteller and had quite an imagination.  He also wrote a column for his city’s paper for 20 years about his children, pets, his wife, family, and friends.

In 1985, he and my grandmother gave all of us in the family an amazing book of his columns and some family photos.  It is one of my favorite and most special treasures.  I love that my writing is often similar to his.  Today, I was looking at this book and came across a great column.  When I read it, I thought of Ian who has just had a birthday and my nephew Isaac who will turn 17 years old tomorrow.

This photo was taken of me with my amazing grandparents in 1986 – one year after receiving this precious gift.  I have enjoyed reading it on occasion ever since and draw inspiration from his columns and his stories that he used to tell.  I still miss both of them very much and wish they could have met my husband and son.

Here are my grandpa’s words on Parent’s Hardest Job, which was published in November 1950:

____”I’ve been watching our small son wrestle with Brownie, our family pooch.  It’s man-style wrestling now.  All at once I knew our boy is a baby no longer. The little baby has gone forever.

“Know how I feel? Like boo-hooing. I think a parent’s hardest job is watching the little ones grow up. Do you feel that way too? They grow up so doggone fast.

“Probably our regret is selfish.  One reason we love our children so much when they are little is that they make us feel very important. Their helplessness feeds our big-shot appetites. Compared with them we’re competent, successful, brilliant.

“We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t enjoy these superior feelings.

“Then they grow up. They become more and more independent. They compete with us. We become small potatoes. And we don’t like it.

“What should I do with my son, and you with yours? I should be more generous. I should get my thrill out of his new accomplishments. I should encourage his growth in all ways.

“So, little boy, go ahead and wrestle man-style. Nice to see your progress.

“The trouble is that your father is a soft-hearted old lump-in-the throat guy who just can’t seem to practice what he preaches. Oh me!”____

Aren’t these words amazing? I teared up when I read them today.  I thought about Ian and Isaac and the rest of my nieces and nephews and how quickly they are all growing up.  Time moves so quickly and there is so much change in our children.

I am honored to be able to have a front-row seat at my son’s growing up years and so many other amazing young people.  I feel blessed and humbled about that.  I wish them all the best!

I wonder if I could put this feeling into words as well as Grandpa did?  I am just glad to have his words to read and learn from.

Monday Musings

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAHi and Happy Monday.  Happy Cinco de Mayo!  And, yesterday was Stars Wars day when a lot of people said, “May the 4th Be With You.”

On this Monday, I have some rambling musings/thoughts of items on my mind or that have touched me in recent days.

My heart goes out to people struggling.  First of all, the news that two weeks ago, more than 200 girls were kidnapped to be sold is heartbreaking.  I can’t even imagine what they and their families are feeling.  I hope things can be done very soon to bring them back.

The fact that certain people have no regard for others is appalling and amazing to me.  Life is so precious and our young children so very special, I honestly cannot fathom treating girls or boys like this.  And, the sad fact is that this treatment is far more common than we’d like to think.

May those with voices do something about it to inspire action and change and realization that all life is to be respected and honored. My heart and prayers go out to these girls and their families.

I am also praying for one relative and one friend who are undergoing chemo treatments.  They both have wonderful outlooks and are positive that they will get better.  I know they have rough days and times of intense pain and discomfort, but they also have many great and fun days too.  Love to both of them.  They inspire me so very much.

On Good Morning America this morning, they had their annual Breakfast in Bed tribute to two mothers.  One is a NICU nurse and the other works for the show and had daughters who this nurse took care of.  My applause for this nurse and others like her who take care of our smallest babies.  The story of both women was very well done and showed they are friends.

I couldn’t help but think of when Ian was in the NICU the first four days of his life.  He wasn’t a preemie but had to be there for breathing issues and problems with sucking.  He was treated well and the staff was wonderful with him.  It was such a blessing to bring him home.

And, finally I recently heard an amazing quote on the news from someone who was terminally ill.  It is very inspiring and brought me to tears.  It said that each day when this person woke up, she chose to be happy.  Knowing that you don’t have long to live and having that attitude is so amazing to me.  When I am having a rough day, I will try to keep this in mind.

Today I am thankful for:

  • Freedom and being free
  • Waking up each morning and hugging my family
  • A child who is safe
  • Friends and family members who inspire me
  • Love and forgiveness
  • Being able to pray in times of need

I almost forgot to mention.  This photo was taken during our field study to the zoo.  It was a lovely morning and a fun day.

I wonder what new things will inspire me or touch me.  I look forward to finding out.

Five Minute Friday – Present

5minutefridayToday I am taking a day off from the Photo-A-Day challenge to write my Five Minute Friday posting.  I will be back to the photos tomorrow and may even post today’s then.

Today’s word for Five Minute Friday is Present.

Here are the rules:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community…

Now GO …

presentA present is something precious. The thoughtfulness of a special gift that a loved one has bought for you is a treasure.

Watching my son open an anticipated gift on Christmas morning or on his birthday is a real treat.

He is so thrilled and appreciative and then loves to play with the new item.  Most of the day when a new gift is received is spent playing with and learning all about the new item.

More important is the here and now — not the past or future but the present.

Until I had a child of my own, I didn’t totally understand the concept of living in the present.  I would spend a lot of time thinking about the future and the past.  Ian helps me live in the moment and savor each and every second.

It is amazing that kids can totally be engaged and consumed (in a good way) with whatever is in front of them at the time.  They don’t worry about the next meal, having power in the house, or missing a favorite tv show because a bill can’t be paid.

I think we can learn a lot from a child.  The gift of time is an amazing present and one that I try to make the best of.   And, I do my best to always be totally there in the moment.

I wonder if we can truly live in the present and savor the excitement, wonder, and possibilities of each day like a child does.  I am sure going to try.

Now, STOP!!!

To read other blogs from the Five Minute Friday community, please see http://lisajobaker.com/2013/07/five-minute-friday-present/

Children Are Precious!

childrenIn light of the events of Friday, I wanted to post a poem that is included in my Mom’s Devotional Bible.

It is a poem that really touched me about children and what we can learn from them.

Children are precious gifts from God!  Here is a picture that I found in Power Point’s Clip Art.  Isn’t it a neat picture? I thought it went along perfectly with the poem.

The poem is called “On Raising Children” and is by Mary Hollingsworth.  It states:

“Children are the best teachers in the world.  They teach young women how to be mothers and young men how to be fathers.  They teach older men and women how to be grandparents.  They even teach other children how to be brothers and sisters.

“Think about all the skills children teach people.  They teach moms how to be nurses and dads how to be heroes.  They teach brothers and sisters how to share… toys, rooms, dreams and cookies.  They even teach teachers how to teach in creative and fun ways.

“Children teach the world how to love.  They teach us to look past a person’s skin color right to his or her heart.  They teach us how to be honest, open and innocent.  And they teach us how to hug and laugh and be enthusiastic.

“Children make us keep our promises because they never forget one that we make.  They even make us into scientists and professors by asking “why?” about everything that moves and many things that don’t.

“Isn’t it interesting that while we are teaching our children to be adults, they are teaching us how to be children?  That’s especially important when we remember what Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matthew 19:14).”

Thank you Mary Hollingsworth for these amazing words about our children!  We truly can learn a lot from them.

May we always remember how precious they are!!  Let’s remember to love our children!!

940 Saturdays

In a recent issue of Reader’s Digest, there was a short item titled, “940 Saturdays.”

This caught my attention because it said, “940 Saturdays is the number of Saturdays between the day your child is born and the time he turns 18.  The phrase might serve as a reminder to cherish the time you have with your child and to use it wisely.”

Despite being very short in length, it was a very powerful article in a great magazine.  And, I have been thinking about that time frame ever since I read it.

So far, I think that Kirk and I have made the most of our almost 260 Saturdays with Ian.  He will be 5 years old in October so that will be the 260th Saturday give or take.  I figured that by multiplying 5 years x 52 weeks that we have in a year.

Already that many have gone by?  Wow!!!  How is that possible?  It seems like he was just a baby, then learning to crawl, learning to walk, learning to write his name, learning to use the bathroom (still being worked on but great progress has been made).  And, we have enjoyed hundreds of other new experiences with him.

I know that as Ian starts school, these weeks will go by even faster.  And, that makes me a bit sad, I must admit.  How about you?  On the other hand, it is a joy to see him learn new things, find his own voice and thoughts, and discover his world.  Ian has his entire life ahead of him and that is very exciting!!

When our kids are young, I think that we feel we have all of the time in the world and that having them grow up will never come.  Day-to-day and year to year sometimes are very hard and we may feel that it’s a struggle to get past.

But reading a number like that made me realize that the time isn’t endless.   We have a limited time with Ian as a young person to teach him what we can and have as much fun with him and make some amazing memories.

An important job for a parent is to teach our child or children how to take care of him or her self or themselves and be able to live away from us one day.  At this stage in Ian’s life, I can’t even fathom that.  There are so many steps to get him from here to there.  But, I know that it is coming one day.

We have a great life in front of us and I am excited and honored to be on this journey with Kirk and with Ian!  I look forward to us savoring each week as we make the most of our time together!

And, I also look forward to knowing Ian as a man and hopefully meeting his family one day.  I hope to regularly see him and spend time with him throughout his entire life.

Even after the end of these 940 Saturdays, there are so many more to enjoy with him!!  I can’t wait!!

I wonder if we can truly realize how precious this time is!  I am going to make a conscious effort to do just that!  How about you?

A Dolphin Tale

On Sunday afternoon, Kirk, Ian and I watched the movie, “Dolphin Tale.”

Have you ever seen it?  If not, I recommend that you do.

It is based on the true story of a dolphin named Winter who injured her tail and had to have it amputated.  She was then given an artificial tail. (I don’t want to give away any of the movie so that is just part of the story.)

The other part is of a boy dealing with pain and trying to find his way in the world.  And the joy of seeing something inspire him and awaken a purpose for his life.

This is a very inspirational movie and one that even a 4 1/2 year old can watch.  It was so nice not to have to say, “Ian, cover your eyes,” or “Ian, cover your ears.”  I like finding a family movie that we all enjoyed.

Ian was fascinated with learning about the dolphin, the seagull, and other sea creatures.  He also enjoyed watching what the kids were doing.  This movie kept his interest the entire time.  And, if you have a young child, you know how rare that is!

Dolphin Tale starred Harry Connick, Jr., Morgan Freeman, Ashley Judd, Kris Kristofferson, and two great child actors, Nathan Gamble and Cozi Zuehlsdorff.  This is a great cast who worked very well together!

It was great to see a movie that celebrated teamwork in a good way, showed dealing with hard issues in life, learning on others, and dealt with prosthetics.

One of the lessons from this movie is to never give up no matter what happens to you.  People who have lost limbs due to war, illness, or a variety of other reasons can sometimes be made to feel less of a person.  Or people gauk at them because they are different.

Instead, as this movie conveyed, it’s okay to be different and that you can still do what you want.  It may just need to be done differently.  And, there is nothing wrong with that!

Another lesson that I gleaned from it is that people can do amazing things if they believe that they can and go for it!  Circumstances and obstacles don’t have to stop you from succeeding.

And, one other lesson, is for adults to try to live more like a child.  In other words, try to live in the moment and try not to think of all the reasons why you can’t do something, but instead focus on the fact that you can.

I hope and pray that I can put these lessons into practice!  Please share your thoughts and how this movie inspired you.

Here are some great quotes to go along with these lessons:

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” ~Angela Schwindt

“Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you.”  ~Marsha Norman

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”  ~e.e. cummings

“Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.”  ~Mary Anne Radmacher

Happy Mother’s Day!

I hope that you had a great Mother’s Day yesterday.  Mine was nice and quite special!

After a very trying week, I enjoyed lunch out with my parents and my husband and son. Being with both my mom and my son was truly a gift!  We shared a great meal and made some new memories.

As I was growing up, I didn’t realize the importance of being a good mom.  As with most kids, I suppose I took her a little bit for granted.  I had no clue what she did for me either and how all of her gifts and knowledge, and love would impact me in my life as a grown-up.

I was and still am fortunate to have a mom who has always made time for us.  We went to Camp Fire events together, church and drama club activities, and the occasional camping trips.  And we always made great crafts at our birthday parties. One of my friends commented on it recently.

But until I became a mother, I had no idea of what it takes to be a good, caring, compassionate caregiver, nurturer, cheerer, and supporter.  You sometime don’t appreciate a person until you go through the same things.  My mother has taught me how to be a good mom to my own child.  I can’t thank her enough for all that she has done for me over the years.

Now that I am grown up and have my own family, it is a treasure to be friends with my parents.  But she is always mom and always will be.  There is still much respect and love but now there are more things we can share together.

This week while I was at the hospital, I was blessed to have my mother with me. It was such a relief just to have her in the room.  I don’t know about you but to this day, when I truly feel my worst, I want my mom.  Thanks Mom for being there for me!

I have learned so much from her.  I only hope and pray that I can be as good a mother to my son.  I love him with all my heart and know it is my responsibility to teach him how to be a successful man who will find his own way in life.  I am ready and up for the challenge.

Here are some great quotes about motherhood:

“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.”  ~Tenneva Jordan

“Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.”  ~Mildred B. Vermont

“A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after.”  ~Peter De Vries

“The phrase “working mother” is redundant.”  ~Jane Sellman

“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.  She never existed before.  The woman existed, but the mother, never.  A mother is something absolutely new.”  ~Rajneesh

What a Week!

The last seven days have been amazing and so full of blessings.

I have felt such an outpouring of love and care with all of the prayer support that I received!  (Please see my posting on Wednesday to read about my trip to the ER)

Yesterday afternoon, I went to my regular doctor for a follow-up visit.  My blood pressure was normal (yeah!) and I was so happy about that.  And, he gave me a medicine to help my stomach / GI tract to settle back down.

He also told me that doctors often can’t tell you exactly what is wrong with you but that they can tell you what isn’t wrong.  That is something profound, don’t you think?  It is also frustrating when you want to have an answer. As I found out this week, however, that isn’t always possible.

We then discussed diet and some changes that I need to make.  He mentioned that healthy eating has to be a new lifestyle choice and not considered a diet.  As you know from reading my blog, I am trying to lose weight but am still not having much success.  This doctor reminded me that it’s all about portion control, eating fewer carbs, and avoiding fried food (for my stomach mainly but a good idea for overall health).

I thanked him for his advice and the medicine.  Then we came home from the doctor, took the medicine, and made dinner — salmon, mashed potatoes, broccoli, and biscuits.  DELICIOUS!  And, I had no stomach, etc. problems.  For the first night in a while, I slept very well through the night and without almost no pain. Thank you Lord.

This week has truly been a wakeup call and has shown me how far from the healthy food choices I was. I thought I was doing well but got off track the previous week. I am working now each day to make healthier choices.  And, to exercise as well.  I am tired of feeling lousy and ready to feel better and back to a fun and healthy weight.  After all, I have some great clothes that I want to be able to wear again.

My husband and son have been so sweet and attentive to me. My hubby has been helping a lot around the house (something he does anyway) and been making sure that I have been getting rest and what I need.

In addition, my son has been very attentive. Ian has a doctor’s kit and last night he gave me a checkup.  He checked my heart and said, “there is a robber in your heart trying to get the pain out,” meaning he wants Mommy’s pain to go away.  He has said several times, “It’s okay Mommy,”  and “I hope that you can lose weight Mommy.”

It means a lot to have my own cheering section!  And, I feel truly blessed to have such a loving and caring set of family and friends who provided such amazing prayer support and concern.  That has meant the world to me this week.  Thank you Lord for watching over me!

How was your week?  I hope and pray it was full of blessings!  Please share with me and other readers.

From the Mouths of Children

Have you ever listened to a young child speak? Or listened to them give their ideas and point on view on life?  I do every day and love it.

Ian always has something interesting to say.  He is really quite insightful on a lot of things. That is quite amazing for a 4-year-old.

Yesterday morning, he said, “Mommy, I have a boo-boo in my throat.” He was speaking of a sore throat and I loved how he put that.

Since he is discovering reading more and more, he keeps asking us, “What does that say?” “Can you tell me?”  I love watching his mind at work.

This morning while pointing to his head, he said, “God made me and he putted my brain in there.”  Very sweet.

Although I as his mother am continually trying to teach him new concepts and ideas, he is the one often teaching us.

From Ian, I have learned to truly live in the moment. He savors and enjoys each experience and isn’t spending his time worrying about something in the future or the past.

I have also learned to be content with the little things.  He is happy with his toys, a pencil and paper, a book, and his hot chocolate. The simple things and the simple life is something that works for him.

I have learned to love unconditionally and give out hugs. He does this most of the time and his hugs and loves are very special.

I have enjoyed laughing with him as well.  I didn’t have to learn that as I have been laughing for years.  But, there is something very special in hearing your child laugh.

I do have to say I love to see when he thinks something is funny.  He grins from ear to ear with his precious dimples and his entire face and body are happy.

This morning I saw a great quote about children from Marianne Williamson, “Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their minds called ‘all the things that could go wrong.'” That really is true.

Please take the time to truly listen to the child or children in your life.  You will be glad that you did.

I wonder if we can enjoy life as much as a child does.  I am certainly going to try.