940 Saturdays

In a recent issue of Reader’s Digest, there was a short item titled, “940 Saturdays.”

This caught my attention because it said, “940 Saturdays is the number of Saturdays between the day your child is born and the time he turns 18.  The phrase might serve as a reminder to cherish the time you have with your child and to use it wisely.”

Despite being very short in length, it was a very powerful article in a great magazine.  And, I have been thinking about that time frame ever since I read it.

So far, I think that Kirk and I have made the most of our almost 260 Saturdays with Ian.  He will be 5 years old in October so that will be the 260th Saturday give or take.  I figured that by multiplying 5 years x 52 weeks that we have in a year.

Already that many have gone by?  Wow!!!  How is that possible?  It seems like he was just a baby, then learning to crawl, learning to walk, learning to write his name, learning to use the bathroom (still being worked on but great progress has been made).  And, we have enjoyed hundreds of other new experiences with him.

I know that as Ian starts school, these weeks will go by even faster.  And, that makes me a bit sad, I must admit.  How about you?  On the other hand, it is a joy to see him learn new things, find his own voice and thoughts, and discover his world.  Ian has his entire life ahead of him and that is very exciting!!

When our kids are young, I think that we feel we have all of the time in the world and that having them grow up will never come.  Day-to-day and year to year sometimes are very hard and we may feel that it’s a struggle to get past.

But reading a number like that made me realize that the time isn’t endless.   We have a limited time with Ian as a young person to teach him what we can and have as much fun with him and make some amazing memories.

An important job for a parent is to teach our child or children how to take care of him or her self or themselves and be able to live away from us one day.  At this stage in Ian’s life, I can’t even fathom that.  There are so many steps to get him from here to there.  But, I know that it is coming one day.

We have a great life in front of us and I am excited and honored to be on this journey with Kirk and with Ian!  I look forward to us savoring each week as we make the most of our time together!

And, I also look forward to knowing Ian as a man and hopefully meeting his family one day.  I hope to regularly see him and spend time with him throughout his entire life.

Even after the end of these 940 Saturdays, there are so many more to enjoy with him!!  I can’t wait!!

I wonder if we can truly realize how precious this time is!  I am going to make a conscious effort to do just that!  How about you?

Each Day Is A Gift

“Everybody’s working for the weekend.” — lyrics in a song by Loverboy.

That is a great song but is it true?!  Is that really what we are working for?

Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy my weekends and the routines being slightly different.  However, having a son who is pre-school age has helped to learn to appreciate each and every day.

Kids are great at living in the moment and truly making it the best it can be.  Children treat each day as the gift that it is and open up its possibilities like a present.

I wonder why we as adults have such a hard time with that.  We are always watching the clock: “Is it 5 yet so I can go home?”  Or we are wishing our week away to get to the weekend.  Or we are so looking forward to a concert or vacation, that we miss the days leading up to that special occasion.

This summer I am doing my best to savor and appreciate each day that I am given.  Things are new every morning and each time we awake from a night of sleep is a gift.

I hope that you too can realize that each day is a blessing and make the most of it!

A few quotes about time:

“Time is the coin of your life.  It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.  Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.”  ~Carl Sandburg

“Time is what we want most, but… what we use worst.”  ~William Penn

You must have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by; but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.”  ~James Matthew Barrie

The Future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.”  ~C.S. Lewis

The Gift of Time

“If I could save time in a bottle the first thing that I’d like to do is save every day ’til eternity passes just to spend them with you,” the opening line to Time in a Bottle by Jim Croce

What if we could save time like that?  Wouldn’t that be great? Then we’d have a chance to do things over, build up time for when we really need it, or just take our time for granted.

But time doesn’t work that way.  Time is a precious gift that should be savored and appreciated.

At my first job after college I was a reporter for a small town paper.  My “beat” was the police and sheriff’s departments as well as the fire department and county ambulance service and the courthouse offices, county commission and other assignments as given.  An amazing beat where I learned a lot.  One of the best things I ever heard in my life was from a paramedic who was the supervisor of his particular crew – his name was Gordon and he is someone I will never forget.  He told me, “never be a grave hugger.” I asked, “what do you mean?”

He explained that you should always tell people you love them, never leave anything unsaid, and never regret having said something to someone without an apology because you just don’t know how long you have with them. Very profound words for me to hear as I was just starting my career and adult life. That has been something I have tried to live by ever since and am so thankful for his wisdom.

Time also is a funny thing — sometimes it seems to fly by and other times it seems to drag. But we are still given the same 24 hours, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year. Have you ever noticed that when you are on vacation or doing something you really enjoy, the time seems to pass very quickly? It certainly seems to for me.  Or if you are dragging at the end of the week or feeling ill or with a person who is difficult to deal with, the hours seem to last and last? Again, I can relate to this too.

This summer I celebrated a wonderful high school reunion – our 25th.  I just can’t believe so many years have gone by since high school!  I sometimes still feel like that girl in the drama club, show choir with a small circle of friends, but know that I am not. I have responsibilities, a family, and an amazing life as an adult with many family and friends whom I cherish. It is amazing to see my friends from high school now and how everyone gets along so well — I have a unique class in that most of us are still in touch with each other. And we truly care about each other — what a blessing.

I hope that we can make the most of each day and truly learn to cherish this gift. I know there are people who wish they’d had more time with a loved one who has a lingering and/or long illness, or an Alzheimer’s diagnosis, or a childhood that has passed too quickly. For these people, I pray for comfort and the understanding that again with time, wounds can be healed and life can get better again.

Also time is positive for the Olympic athlete who has trained most of his or her life for a sport and then has the chance to compete and win a medal.  Wow!! I graduated with a girl who played for the Olympic women’s basketball team – they won gold which was amazing. Or the time your child is born is one is one you will always remember, or seeing your favorite band in concert, or watching the blockbuster movie, or when something amazing and wonderful happens – you get the job you’ve worked for, you get a promotion, your team wins the World Series or the Super Bowl.

Some things I savor are the time to bake and decorate cookies with my son, the time to watch the sunset at Mission Beach, the time to visit with a friend who I haven’t seen in years, the time to do laundry and spend the day visiting with my grandfather, the time to read the Bible, the time to read a book or newspaper, the time to celebrate a dear one’s birthday, the time to go to church and worship the Lord and sing His praises, and the time to have a date with my husband.

I still wonder if we can appreciate our time and make the most of it and try to help someone else. Lord, please help us do just that.