February 14 – Love

POD_3-7-2014_FlyHi and Happy Valentine’s Day.  Today’s Photo Challenge is Love.  How fitting for a day all about love.  My photos are of my two greatest loves — my wonderful husband and our amazing son. These two men mean the world to me and I am so glad to have them as my family.  I love them very differently yet both fully and with all that I am.

So it got me to thinking, how can you illustrate or define love? As you know, there are many types of love and definitions. We love our mates and children differently, we love our families and friends in other ways, we love our pets in a different way, and there is our love of God and our faith.  All of these loves are valid and real to us.

To me love is — given every day, compassion, forgiveness, honesty, kindness, generosity, patience, partnership, unconditional, raw and messy at times, beautiful, passion, being there for the good and bad in life, support, and forever.

There is a line in the movie “Love Story” that has always bothered me.  “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”  I totally disagree.  To me, love means you should say you are sorry.  Not too much that it means nothing, but when needed it should be said.

We all make mistakes and hurt one another.  Yet, because of love we can say we are sorry, change our behavior, and forgive one another.  And then you can move past the problem and continue to love.

One of the best descriptions of love is in 1st Corinthians 13: 4-8. Kirk and I had this read on our wedding day.  It meant the world to both of us.  This is from the New International Version of the Bible:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Isn’t that beautiful?  If only we could love others that way.  We are called by Christ to love others — including our enemies and those who seem the least lovable.  All of us need to be loved by someone.  My hope and prayer is that we can be more loving to those around us.

Today I am thankful for:

  • My husband for loving me as I am and being an amazing partner in all things
  • Our son who is the light of our life and an amazing gift
  • My parents who taught me what love is all about
  • My siblings (and in-laws) who I love to be with and admire so very much
  • My cousins who are true and real friends
  • My in-laws who are a wonderful addition to my family
  • My aunts and uncles who have taught me so much
  • My friends who I treasure — both old and new
  • My grandparents who demonstrated their love for one another
  • My nieces and nephews who enrich my world and are great friends to Ian
  • Our school and church friends who mean so much to the three of and who are teaching Ian so many things
  • Our community and neighbors who make us feel truly at home

May you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day full of love!  Whether or not you have a special someone, I hope and pray that you will know that you are loved.

The Greatest of These Is Love

Happy Valentine’s Day!  Today I wanted to write about love instead of weight loss.  (I will write on that tomorrow.)

Hope you are spending this day with the ones you love. I am blessed to be doing just that and it’s wonderful.

There are many definitions and quotes about love that are meaningful and that you may have heard. In addition, there are many kinds of love — romantic love for your spouse or mate, parental love for your children, familial love for family and friends, and compassionate love you have for others.

There is one, however, that bothers me since I don’t agree with it.  The quote is from the movie “The Love Story”– “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

In my mind, that is the total opposite of what it means to love someone. Love means saying you are sorry when you make mistakes, that you will honor and respect them, that you will take them as they are, and help them through trying times and celebrate with happy times.

The finest explanation about love for me is from the Bible — 1st Corinthians Chapter 13 – also known as The Love Chapter.  This was a part of my wedding and it still means as much as on that day I started my married life with a wonderful and very loving man.

Here is one version that I found of The Love Chapter:

“If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don’t have love, I have become a sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal.

“If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but don’t have love, I am nothing.

“If I dole out all my goods to feed the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but don’t have love, it profits me nothing.

“Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

“But where there are prophecies, they will be done away with. Where there are various languages, they will cease. Where there is knowledge, it will be done away with.

“For we know in part, and we prophesy in part; but when that which is complete has come, then that which is partial will be done away with.

“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things.

“For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face.  Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, even as I was also fully known.

“But now faith, hope, and love remain — these three.  But the greatest of these is love.”

Wow, isn’t that an amazing explanation of love? The fact that Love Never Fails is amazing to me. I hope and pray that you have a true and amazing love!

Thank you God for giving us the gift of love! Happy Valentine’s Day to my love.