Things We’ve Learned

On Friday, I posted a blog about a dear friend Dawn who was celebrating a birthday.  She also does a blog, which is linked to this one — It Just Dawned On Me.

For her birthday, she wrote about 44 things that she’d learned.  They are so good that I decided to borrow a few!  Hope you don’t mind Dawn!

Here some thoughts from my wise friend.  Her quotes are in italics and then I had a few comments to add.

  • Days can seem long, but life is short.”  I love this!  It is so true since some days just seem to drag on and on.  But then others seem to fly by.  And, it seems it was just the first of the year and here we already are in mid-May.  Life is short and important to enjoy.  Make the most of each moment!!
  • Relationships are what is important. We are each made for relationship.”  This is so very true.  Spending time with loved ones is so much more important and special than just about anything to me.  As I get older, I realize how true this is.  I am blessed with many kinds of relationships and hope you are as well.
  • Messy won’t kill you… it might aggravate, irritate, and you might need to fumigate… but it won’t kill you.”  This I love since I am not the neatest person.  I try but honestly, I have so many other things to do that being neat is always at the bottom of the list.  My husband puts up with a lot — my piles of items that I need to straighten up.  And, Dawn knows how I am.
  • It’s fun having friendships that have lasted the years.”  Yes, it truly is.  I hope that each of you has at least one friend who you has been in your life for a very long time!  This is a true blessing from God!
  • Children are a gift from God Himself.”  This I know to be true.  I truly feel honored and blessed to have our son.  My husband and I waited until later in life to have him and truly feel like he is the perfect addition to our family.  And, we are so blessed to have many nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends who are also great kids!
  • I could eat Mexican food every day.”  Me too!  In fact, I craved this food while pregnant with Ian and now he likes it too.  Tacos, enchiladas, beans, and the list goes on!!
  • Remember the good things.”  This is true and sometimes hard to practice.  It always seems to be easy to remember the bad and hard things in life.  But remembering the good is truly important.
  • Know that bad times will pass. They always do.  It won’t be that way forever.”  Even though the awful seems to never end, it will and it always does.  This is a light at the end of the tunnel, but it sometimes takes a while to get there.
  • Laugh.  Laugh a lot.  Laugh at yourself.”  This is great advice and something I like to do every day.  Have you ever laughed so hard you cried?  That is an amazing experience that I hope you have sometime in your life!
  • I’m not in control of life . . . even though I like to think I am.”  To me it’s a great comfort that God is in control.  We can sometimes think that we are, but we really aren’t.
  • Tell people that you love, that you love them.  Say it over and over again.  You need to say it.  They need to hear it.”  Yes, I totally agree.  Something so important for us to do.
  • God is good.  All the time.”  AMEN!

I hope you are as blessed by these wise thoughts from Dawn as I was.  This is just a portion of her 44 items.  Please check out her blog to read the rest.

The Simple Things

You may have heard the quote, “The best things in life aren’t things.”  I totally agree with that sentiment.

Over the next few weeks, each Friday, I am going to write about simple things, blessings, or moments that made a difference in my week.   I hope that you will post items from your week as well.

My hope is that we can stop to think about our blessings and those moments that mean so much.

Here are some of my special moments from the week:

  • Having coffee with family after a moving Good Friday service
  • Visiting with family and friends at an Easter luncheon
  • A family circle of prayer
  • The joy of children during and after an Easter Egg hunt
  • The funny faces made in a picture of cousins
  • Singing, “I Know That My Redeemer Lives” at the church where I met my husband
  • Meeting a new friend and renewing an old friendship
  • Laughing at a joke my son told me
  • Sharing the excitement of a new office
  • My son making a special princess picture for me
  • Looking at photos from my childhood
  • Choosing library books
  • Making dinner at home
  • A sincere thank you for a job well done
  • My husband saying I love you

**”Life is made up of small pleasures. Happiness is made up of those tiny successes. The big ones come too infrequently. And if you don’t collect all these tiny successes, the big ones don’t really mean anything.” – Norman Lear

I wonder if we can take time to notice these precious moments.  I will do my best to do just that.

Chemistry and Connections with People

Have you ever noticed that there are some people who you meet and instantly click with?  While there are others that you just can’t relate to?

I recently met some amazing people at a Writer’s Conference and several of us seemed to click right away and become fast friends.

We shared things about our dreams, what we were working on, and some about our lives without any hint of hesitation.

Perhaps it’s because we had a common interest of writing.  And we were all very open to learning more about the craft and about the other people who were there to learn with us.

We just seemed to have chemistry and hit it off immediately.  To me, that is a special and rare gift.

According to Webster, Chemistry is normally defined as “a science that deals with the composition, structure, and properties of substances and with the transformations that they undergo.”

But it is also defined as “a strong mutual attraction, attachment, or sympathy” or the “interaction between people working together; specifically : such interaction when harmonious or effective.”

In the case of the writers, it was an interaction between people working together.

There is also chemistry with those you fall in love with.  Something just intrigues you about that other person and it’s not easily defined.

When I met my husband, it was at church during a Lenten service.  We were able to talk to each other very comfortably and like we’d know each other a while.  I truly believe that meeting him was divine intervention.

My graduating class from high school also has an amazing chemistry or bond.  We recently celebrated our 25th reunion.  The people who attended all had a good time and interacted with one another.  It is a special group of people who have truly moved past the cliques and junk you deal with in high school.  And, now we enjoy one another’s company and enjoy learning about each other’s families.

And, my cousins and I are totally different people, yet there is a strong bond there.  My grandparents loved having the entire family together and showed us amazing love and caring.  And, that seems to have carried on through the generations.  I am so blessed to have learned from these people — about different ways to think, to live, and different faiths.

There are also some people in my life who I just can’t seem to find anything to discuss.  Each time we are together there is an awkwardness.  I can’t put my finger on how to resolve that either, but I continue to try so the relationship can hopefully improve.

Actors try to find that chemistry with their fellow actors while performing a scene.  Sometimes they have it and other times not.  And, some people in your life, you can totally understand and relate to while others remain a mystery.

I wonder what it is that makes our connections so amazing in some cases and so odd in others. It is truly something to study and ponder.  Please share your thoughts with me and the other readers!