Flashback Friday – Mom Edition

FF.Mom_5Hi and Happy Friday.  I don’t know about you but I am so glad it is Friday.  For today’s Flashback Friday, it is the Mom edition.  Enjoy!

FF.Mom_1This first photo is from years and years ago of me with Mom at the beach house.  We as usual had windblown hair and were wearing our sunglasses.  It is one of my favorites of the two of us. The next is on the same porch when I was very young (and so were my parents).

Happy Mother’s Day to all moms.  I want to wish my mother, my mother-in-law, my sister, my sisters-in-law, my aunts, cousins, nieces, and friends a very Happy Mother’s Day!  May you have wonderful and special celebrations.

I want to say thanks to my mom for all that she taught me.  She loved my siblings and me and was always there for us.  She showed us what mothering is all about. I am fortunate to have learned from her how to be a mother for my own child.

FF.Mom_2Until I became a mother I had no idea what it felt like to have your heart living outside of your body. Or having a little person who has heard a mom’s heart from the inside.  Wow! Motherhood is a gift and I am happy to be a part of the club.

Not to say it’s always easy because it isn’t.  There are struggles and many tough times but with other mothers to help and our spouses, the journey seems easier. Thanks to all of the moms in my life who have taught me, supported me, and have been there for me.

A few quotes about mothers:

  • “Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.” ~ Author Unknown
  • “All mothers are working mothers.” ~ Author Unknown
  • “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~ Sophia Loren
  • “Mother — that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries.” ~ T. DeWitt Talmage
  • “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” ~ Marion C. Garretty
  • “A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” ~ Author Unknown

Happy Mother’s Day!  Hope you enjoy your weekend.  I plan to.

Hi Ian’s Mom

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAThis morning one of Ian’s friends said, “Hi Ian’s Mom” to me in the hallway before school.  He had to speak up since I didn’t see him at first.  I said hello in return and smiled.  We then  each went our separate ways.

This friend was in the same 1st grade class as Ian, but this year is in a different class.  They are in Cub Scouts together so we still see him. That is nice for Ian and for me since I like this young man.

Ian’s Mom is who I am known as at Ian’s school and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Kids call me that as well as some of the parents.  His friends in his Cub Scout den also call me that.  Other parents, and the teachers and staff know me as Patti and the PTO secretary.

I love being his mom and love him so very much.  I love that he has made friends and continues to do so.  I love that he enjoys going to school.  He is such a sweet boy and so much fun to know and listen to.  Kirk and I are truly blessed to be his parents.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAIn two days, we will celebrate Ian’s birthday.  He will be 8 years old.  Wow, our sweet baby is really growing up.

The changes that have occurred in his lifetime are just amazing.  He went from crawling, to walking, to running.  From no speech to early words to talking endlessly some days.  He went from thinking he would never learn to read, to reading toddler books, to recently finishing “James and The Giant Peach.”

He now wakes himself up, makes his breakfast, and gets himself ready for school.  He has an alarm set to help him wake up.  So far so good with that.  Next week though is fall break and I told him we won’t be using the alarm clock.  He reluctantly said okay.

Our boy is a young man now.  He is getting very tall and outgrowing clothing and shoes. In the mornings, I often ask him if he has had his growing machine on at night.  He laughs and says, “No Mom.  I am just growing.”

n539281610_366595_2660Before that day 8 years ago, I never knew how much love I had to give.  I didn’t know that I could put someone else’s needs before my own with middle of the night feedings and lack of sleep.  I didn’t realize that someone would be listening and carefully watching all that I do in order to learn for himself.  I didn’t realize that my heart would live outside my body in such a small yet amazing package.

The job of parents is daunting and very hard at times.  After all, our job is to love them, teach them how to behave, to be kind to others, and provide them with discipline.  Then when they are grown, to prepare them for the outside world and eventually say goodbye and leave our home.

It is also the most fulfilling and precious time of my life, of my life with Kirk as co-parents on this journey.  We want the best for our son and do all we can to provide that.  Not only with money and material things, but in special moments and times together, and creating memories.  We listen to him when he talks to us and live in the moment with him.

I teach Ian many things but he continues to teach me each and every day.  From him, I have learned to live in the moment.  I have learned to be truly thankful for each day.  I have learned what love truly is all about.  Ian, I thank you for that and am so proud that you call me Mom.  Your Dad and I love so so very much!

Throwback Thursday – My Heart

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERAHi and Happy Thursday!  Today’s Photo-A-Day Challenge is Heart.  This little guy has my heart.  Our sweet son is so precious to both my husband and me.  We love him so much. We have a special bond.  I am so appreciative of that and all that he is.

This photo was taken at San Diego Zoo many years ago.  This partial xylophone was in the kids section and Ian was having a great time trying to play it.  Maestro, ready, set, go!

I never realized how it would feel to have part of my heart walking around in this little person.  And, also realizing he has heard my heartbeat from the inside is quite profound.

Today I am thankful for:

  • A boy who still loves music as much as on this day at the zoo
  • My husband and son — the two loves of my life
  • My parents and siblings who I have known my entire life
  • Friends who make me laugh
  • Friends who I share a joke with
  • A friend going home from the hospital with good news
  • Family who I will get to see this summer
  • Other family who although I won’t see this year, we still keep in touch
  • A homemade mother’s day card
  • Amazing teachers who have meant so much to Ian this year
  • Friends made through school activities
  • Messy morning hair
  • Hugs and kisses
  • Hearing “I love you”
  • My many blessings

I wonder what fun things we will do with Ian this evening and upcoming weekend? I can’t wait to find out and enjoy being with my sweet boy.

Happy Late Mother’s Day!!

Hi and Happy Monday!  Hope all of you moms had a great Mother’s Day.  Happy late Mother’s Day to all of the moms in my life.  I am blessed to know so many great women who are amazing mothers.  To my mother and mother-in-law, hope you both had a great and very special day.  To my sister, sisters-in-law, cousins, aunts, and friends, hope your day was great as well.

This is one of my favorite pictures of the three of us from many years ago.  Ian and I were being silly with our mouths wide open.  We were having fun at the beach.  Looking forward to seeing this location again this summer!

I had a great Mother’s Day weekend.  I enjoyed lunch out on Saturday and brunch on Sunday after church. Kirk and Ian took me out on Saturday for yummy fish tacos. We had a fun visit and enjoyed taking our time.  Sunday after church, we ate with my parents, aunt, and cousins.  Fun time with some great moms!!  We took pictures at both meals and enjoyed being together.

I  was going to write yesterday but ended up having a very lazy afternoon and it was fabulous.  How often do we moms get to spend a few hours doing exactly what we want to?  Not very many, that’s for sure.

Ian was busy and Kirk was too, so I had time to read, watch a few movies, do my word finds, and relax.  Today we are back to school, work, Cub Scout meetings, and all of our usual stuff.  So, my lazy yesterday was extra special.

I had planned to include the Mom’s version of 1 Corinthians 13 in my blog yesterday, but then didn’t write it. So I am including it today.  It is in my Mom’s Devotional Bible that I received while in MOPS. I hope that it means as much to you as it did to me.

  • Though I lecture and harp at my children and have not love, I will be background noise to rebellious thoughts.
  • And though I wisely warn them not to use the street as a playground, or they’ll be killed; and though I patiently explain why snails live in mobile homes, and I give endless answers to life’s other mysteries; and though I have faith that can remove mountains of ignorance — yet never hug my children — I have taught nothing.
  • And though I slave over a steaming stove with balanced diets and complicated recipes and even burn my fingers — yet never smile as I serve — I have not really fed them.
  • A truly loving mother suffers through unfinished sentences, clutter, nicks on furniture, sleepless nights and adolescent insults; and is kind enough to think her kids are the greatest. A loving mother tries not to resent her children for being free like she used to be, and she doesn’t brag about how she never talked to her mom that way.
  • Real love considers a childish nightmare more urgent than her need for sleep; is not shattered by the title “Meanest Mom”; doesn’t shame a toddler who breaks training or a teen who still spills milk; steadfastly refuses to entertain visions of escape; and does not smirk as her child trips over the toy he refused to put away (but with silent wisdom rejoices in the effective lessons of experience).
  • Mother-love has arms strong from lifting, a heart large with believing, a mind stretched with hoping, shoulders soft with enduring, and knees bent with committing.
  • True mother-love never fails to point her child to the Author of Love.

To my mother, thanks for all that you have done for me throughout my life.  You have taught me so much and I am truly thankful. I love you.

To our son, I am happy and honored to be your mother.  You have enriched my life in so many ways. I am loving seeing you grow up and become a young man.  I will love you always and forever.

Happy Mother’s Day!!!

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERATomorrow is Mother’s Day.  I decided to write this today since we will be busy tomorrow with a variety of activities. Happy early Mother’s Day!!!!!

I am blessed to know, love, and spend lots of time with my mother!  (Here I am last year with my mother and son at a Mother’s Day luncheon).

A special note to my Mom:

*Thanks Mom for all that you taught me and have done for me over the years!  And you still continue to do so much for me, and my husband, and our son.

*When I was a child, I didn’t appreciate you as I should have when you were at home helping us with all of our activities.  I suppose I took it for granted and didn’t know any better.  Now that I have my own son, I see what you did in a new light.  Now I appreciate all that you did to make my childhood so special.  Mom, I Love You so very much!!!

I also want to say Happy Mother’s Day to my mother-in-law, sister, sisters-in-law, cousins, aunts, nieces, and friends.   All of you are great mothers and people who I have learned a lot from.  It is so nice to have such strong women and great mothers in my circle of people.  You all rock!!!

1596Being a mother has been one of the most rewarding, yet most challenging things ever in my life.  I never expected to love my son as much as I do, or his daddy so much.

I never appreciated my own mother more than the first night we brought him home from the hospital.  And, even though I am a grown woman, I still want my mommy when I don’t feel well.

Moms are amazing and I am privileged to be a part of the mom club.

To my mother, I want to say thank you for:

  • Loving me as much as you did and still do
  • Teaching me the meaning of family
  • Showing love and what a marriage should be
  • Demonstrating a mother’s love and what it means
  • Providing discipline as it was needed
  • Encouraging me throughout my life
  • Passing along your love of music, reading, singing, and family time to me
  • Showing the importance of friendships and staying in regular touch
  • Sharing my motherhood adventure with me and my siblings
  • Being there when I have needed you

To my mother, the mothers in my family, and my friends who are moms, I love you all and am so glad to be on this mom adventure with you.  May you have a fun and blessed day!

Some quotes about motherhood:

  • “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” ~Marion C. Garretty
  • “A mother understands what a child does not say.” ~Author Unknown
  • “A mother’s heart is a patchwork of love.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly.” ~Ambrose Bierce
  • “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” ~Elizabeth Stone
  • “The phrase “working mother” is redundant.” ~Jane Sellman
  • “Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.” ~Lisa Alther
  • “Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing.” ~Toni Morrison
  • “Mommies are just big little girls.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Being a mother means that your heart is no longer yours; it wanders wherever your children do.” ~Author Unknown
  • “There’s nothing like a mama-hug.” ~Terri Guillemets
  • “Mother is a verb, not a noun.” ~Proverb
  • “Mom — the person most likely to write an autobiography and never mention herself.” ~Robert Brault
  • “The mother of boys work son-up to son-down.” ~Author Unknown

I wonder what new mothering adventures I will have with Ian.  I can’t wait to find out and have my friends and family with me.

Throwback Thursday / Happy Mother’s Day

n539281610_366595_2660 In honor of the upcoming Mother’s Day, here are two great photos for Throwback Thursday.

The first is of me as a new mom.  This was the first week after Ian came home from the NICU and after his first bath.  He was just there for four days and we were so happy when he did come home.

Ian was a big baby – 9 lbs 15 oz — so he never wore newborn clothing.  He was in the NICU for breathing issues and problems with his sucking.  Thankfully his pediatrician found out the problem, took care of it, and then he was fine.

I am thankful for my sweet boy and my husband who is helping me teach him and love him and have fun with him.

SRP.72.Bill.Mairzy.Patti.late1960sThe second is me with my mom and dad when I was a young child.  We are sitting together on our beach house front porch many, many years ago. I love this location and these two people very much.

I am blessed to have a mom who taught me a lot and who is as crazy about her grandkids as her kids.  That is a real blessing. Thanks Mom for all you have done for me and all that you have taught me.  I can never thank you enough.

A few quotes about motherhood:

  • “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” ~Tenneva Jordan
  • “Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.” ~Author Unknown
  • “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~Rajneesh
  • “All mothers are working mothers.” ~Author Unknown
  • “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~Sophia Loren

I wonder what new mom adventures I will have today?  I can’t wait to see Ian after school and see what happens!

(Note to my subscribers – I hit publish before the blog was finished so you received an incomplete blog.  This is the corrected version.)

Happy late Birthday Mom!

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAYesterday was my mother’s birthday!

We had such fun celebrating with her both yesterday and during a family party on Saturday.

I didn’t take the time to write anything then.  But I did want to wish her well and say HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU online.

I love my Mom and love that we are friends.  She has taught me so much – both as a child and now that I too am a parent. She is a great example for me and I am so thankful for her.

Like me, she loves to read, sing, take photos, spend time with family and friends.  And, she loves her children and grandchildren more than words.

Here are a few pictures of us.  The first one is with her on Mother’s Day earlier this year with Ian. The other two are from many, many years ago.SRP.34_Mairy.Patti.Artha.1968 SRP.72.Bill.Mairzy.Patti.late1960s The first is me with my mother and her mother.  We were having fun at the beach.  The last picture is of me with both of my parents.

Thanks Mom for everything!  I love you very much.

Happy Birthday Mom!

“I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me.  They have clung to me all my life.”  ~Abraham Lincoln

Well stated Mr. Lincoln!  A mother’s love is an amazing thing.  I was blessed to have and still have a wonderful mother!!!

Today is my mother’s birthday!  Yeah!  We get to celebrate with her today for her party.  I am so looking forward to the party which she is graciously sharing with Ian.  We are celebrating the two of them together and it will be a fun evening.

The above picture was taken many years ago in San Diego of my mother on the left, me in the middle, and my grandma (Mom’s mom) on the right.  It is one of my favorites of our early days going to our family’s favorite beach.  We have many memories from being at that beach together.  In fact, two of the photos that I am including today are from Mission Beach in CA.

I love my mom, whose given name is Mary but is called Mairzy (after the song Mairzy Doats)!  She is a lot of fun and great to talk to.  She has a great zest for life and is always up for time with her kids and grandkids!

My mom was a stay-at-home while the three of us kids were growing up.  Before and after we came along, she was a teacher and a fabulous one at that!  Before I was born, she taught 1st grade and then after myself, my sister Cindy, and brother Richmond were grown, she went back to school, earned a master’s degree and went on to teach kindergarten for a long time.  She has a way with making learning exciting for young children!  And she does that with her grandchildren!  (This picture is of the two of us in the late 1980s on the beach house front porch.)

Mom loves to read, especially mysteries, sing in the church choir and family sing-alongs, watch favorite shows on TV, rest, enjoy the beach and many other things.  She is a soprano with a soaring voice.  Two of my favorites that she sings are “Bali Hai” and “O Holy Night.”  But, I must admit, when I was growing up, I didn’t appreciate her voice as much when we were in the car trying to listen to the radio.

Each birthday growing up, Mom made sure to make us feel very special and we had the best birthdays.  At several of my birthday parties, we made Christmas ornaments.  I still have a few of these from then and enjoy having them on the tree.  A few years ago, a friend of mine told me she used to love coming to my parties and that they were the best.  That was thanks to Mom!

Until I had my own son, I didn’t truly or fully appreciate the depth of love that a mother has for her child/children.  I found that I appreciated my mother so much more after having my own son.  And, I find myself doing a lot of things as she used to do.  Funny, isn’t it how that often happens.

When I was growing up I didn’t want her to teach me how to do much in the kitchen — that teenage rebellion kicked in apparently.  Now, I enjoy doing things with her and Ian!  I want him to learn and need her to help me with those items that I didn’t have the patience to develop early on.

And, I must admit, even today when I am sick and feeling like total crud, I want my mommy!  How about you?  Nothing like a hug and encouraging word from someone who loves you unconditionally and wants only the best for you.  That is what she has always wanted for me and my siblings.  We are truly blessed!

One thing that is truly special and something I cherish, is that each summer since Ian was born, we have had the chance to go to the beach for up to a month with my parents and other family members.  A few times, it has been just me, Mom and Ian.   Wonderful memories were made and much fun was had by all!!

We are currently going to the same church as my parents.  It is fun to see them each week and have Ian have regular time with his grandparents.  This is a picture from Easter this year of (from left) me, Kirk, Ian, Mom and Dad.  (Ian also spends a lot of time with his other set of grandparents.)

I thank the Lord each day for my mother!  She has been a true blessing to me and I so appreciate all that she has done for me over the years.  She taught me to be independent, want to learn, enjoy the love of family, singing, reading, and how to live your faith.  I just hope that I can be the same kind of mother to my son!

A few quotes about mothers:

  • “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”  ~Sophia Loren
  • “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.”  ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul
  • “[A] mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.” ~Emily Dickinson
  • “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” ~Washington Irving
  • “Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.”  ~Lisa Alther
  • “A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” ~Victor Hugo
  • “Mother is a verb, not a noun.”  ~Proverb

A Swimming Adventure

Yesterday was a major milestone for Ian and I am a very proud Mommy!

We went swimming at the pool in my parents’ neighborhood and Ian swam by himself for the first time!

He was wearing swim trunks and one of those floating vests or life vest and Little Swimmers (so there were no accidents in the pool).

He was standing at the steps into the pool with my mom when he discovered his float helped hold him in the water.  Seeing the twinkle in his eye was a wonderful thing! After that he was ready to go.

When he started moving around on his own, he told me “Mommy, stop, let go of me.”  “Okay Ian, but I am still staying with you,” I said.

So we then went around the pool as quickly as his little legs could kick.  He was truly excited and proud of himself that he was able to do something like the big kids.  It was a real honor to watch!!

We’ll still need swimming lessons and need to work on keeping his head about the water, but this was a major first step in his confidence.

Unfortunately my camera battery was dead so I couldn’t get a photo or on video.  But, I will keep it in my memory for a long, long time!  My sweet boy is growing up!!

Happy Mother’s Day!

I hope that you had a great Mother’s Day yesterday.  Mine was nice and quite special!

After a very trying week, I enjoyed lunch out with my parents and my husband and son. Being with both my mom and my son was truly a gift!  We shared a great meal and made some new memories.

As I was growing up, I didn’t realize the importance of being a good mom.  As with most kids, I suppose I took her a little bit for granted.  I had no clue what she did for me either and how all of her gifts and knowledge, and love would impact me in my life as a grown-up.

I was and still am fortunate to have a mom who has always made time for us.  We went to Camp Fire events together, church and drama club activities, and the occasional camping trips.  And we always made great crafts at our birthday parties. One of my friends commented on it recently.

But until I became a mother, I had no idea of what it takes to be a good, caring, compassionate caregiver, nurturer, cheerer, and supporter.  You sometime don’t appreciate a person until you go through the same things.  My mother has taught me how to be a good mom to my own child.  I can’t thank her enough for all that she has done for me over the years.

Now that I am grown up and have my own family, it is a treasure to be friends with my parents.  But she is always mom and always will be.  There is still much respect and love but now there are more things we can share together.

This week while I was at the hospital, I was blessed to have my mother with me. It was such a relief just to have her in the room.  I don’t know about you but to this day, when I truly feel my worst, I want my mom.  Thanks Mom for being there for me!

I have learned so much from her.  I only hope and pray that I can be as good a mother to my son.  I love him with all my heart and know it is my responsibility to teach him how to be a successful man who will find his own way in life.  I am ready and up for the challenge.

Here are some great quotes about motherhood:

“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.”  ~Tenneva Jordan

“Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.”  ~Mildred B. Vermont

“A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after.”  ~Peter De Vries

“The phrase “working mother” is redundant.”  ~Jane Sellman

“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.  She never existed before.  The woman existed, but the mother, never.  A mother is something absolutely new.”  ~Rajneesh