Love One Another

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA“Love is all you need.”  “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” “I will always love you.” “Love one another as I have loved you.” 

Love comes in many shapes and sizes.  There are many types of love and many things that define love.  As you know, we just celebrated the big love day of the year, Valentines’ Day. Well, it is a day that stores and restaurants try to make the big day.  We are encouraged to spend a marked up amount on flowers, eat out, and spend a lot on cards.

That is fine but why not enjoy a home cooked meal with our mate and children?  Why not enjoy our own tradition of handwriting a special card?  Why not have both of you sign the same card as Kirk and I did this year? And, why not remember to love and show our love each and every day?

Don’t get me wrong, I have enjoyed the fun of Valentine’s Day, the fancy dinners out, and the dozen red roses. There is nothing like that in the early stages of a relationship. But, more importantly, I like when Kirk gives me flowers just because, or has asked if I’d like to eat out after a tiring day at work, or wants to have a date night in the middle of the week.

I also like to do special things for him just because. And I like that we tell each other I love you every day.  And, we tell our son that as well. We also regularly demonstrate love to one other by the things we help with around the house, the projects, and the teamwork.

Before meeting Kirk, I had many years without a special someone. it could be tough at times but I did my best to enjoy time with my friends and family. I also learned to love myself and figure out what I wanted in a relationship. That was a blessing and helped me appreciate my relationship even more.

At the top of the blog, I listed a few quotes about love.  Here are my thoughts on them.

  • Love is all you need.  This is from a great Beatles song that I really like.  To me, we need more than love to have relationships work.  We also need trust, honesty, forgiveness, and patience.  Clearly love needs to be part of it since without it, it is very hard to have the rest.
  • Love means never having to say you’re sorry.  This was made famous in The Love Story movie.  I totally disagree with this sentiment.  To me, love means saying sorry often and as needed. Not so much that it means nothing, but enough to show we realize when we made mistakes.
  • I will always love you. This is from one of my favorite Celine Dion songs and is lovely. I agree that you can always love someone. However, you may not always like them and can get frustrated with them. True love means sticking with them through it all and always being there for each other. And loving unconditionally.
  • Love one another as I have loved you.  Christ told us to do this and I think we are lacking with this at times.  We seem to be a society of mistrust, gossip, and a lot of negativity.  I hope and pray that we can get back to truly loving others and wanting the best for each other.  People often try to take credit for another’s accomplishments or blame people when something doesn’t work out.  None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes. My hope is that we can find a way to be more loving and kind.

Love is an amazing gift and something that is rare and precious.  It is to be treasured and respected.  It is to be given freely and without expecting anything in return.  And, it is to be given without condition.

The loves in my life are:

  • My husband who I cherish
  • Our son who is a gift from the Lord and a blessing each day
  • My parents who taught me what love means
  • My siblings and their spouses who I adore
  • My nieces and nephews who I am fascinated by
  • My cousins who I have shared so much with
  • My aunts and uncles who love me like their own
  • My grandparents who I miss each day and loved talking with
  • My in-laws who welcomed me into their family
  • My lifetime friends who I have laughed and cried with
  • My newer friends who I am enjoying getting to know
  • My friends from work, school, and church who are so special
  • My loved ones who have passed and are still missed

I wonder if I will truly remember to love as Christ loved me.  I am going to do my best to do just that.  My prayer is that we all have love and can truly love others.

Happy Anniversary Kirk!

Our Wedding Day“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – from 1st Corinthians 13

Happy 17th Anniversary to my hubby Kirk! Here we are on our wedding day.  We were married at the church where we met. The pastor who married us was my pastor as I was growing up, he confirmed me, and is a longtime family friend. His message to us about love and marriage was the perfect start for us. Also, we heard a reading from 1st Corinthians 13 about love.

My aunt who is an amazing pianist played some special family songs prior to the wedding, and our dear family and friends were there to cheer us on and celebrate the start of our family.  And, the choir sang us a blessing at the end of the wedding.  It was such a special day.

At our reception, a dear friend was the caterer and the food was terrific. She made the two of us plates of food. We then enjoyed them that night at our condo. I danced with both Kirk and my dad at the reception and visited with some great people. We also had time with our family and so many others.

Since then we have had a great marriage. We are a team and work well together.  Not to say things are perfect but we have found our groove and truly compliment each other. We have been through struggles and hard times and have learned a lot over the years. I am so thankful for Kirk and blessed to be his wife. I didn’t meet him until I was 30 years old. When I did, my entire life changed and he was well worth the wait.

I love this man truly and deeply and love that we have such a wonderful child. These two guys are amazing blessings to me. My favorite place to be is with these two at our house – whether it is talking as we wake up in the morning to hugs and giggles before bed, whether it is eating our breakfast to munching on popcorn as we watch a favorite movie.

This year we celebrate 17 years of married life. The gifts for this anniversary are furniture, shells, and watches. We recently purchased new couches and we collected shells while at the beach. So those gifts are covered. It is funny that I was thinking about getting a new watch.  I can call it another anniversary gift.

A few quotes about marriage:

  • Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work. ~ Author Unknown
  • The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds — they mature slowly. ~ Peter De Vries
  • A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year. ~ Paul Sweeney
  • Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day. ~ Gene Perret

How do I love thee Kirk, let me count the ways.  I love your sense of humor, I love our jokes and inside stories, I love your strength, I love that you help so much at our home, I love that you are my soul mate and love for life. I love that you are such an amazing father to our son. I love you and always will.

February 14 – Love

POD_3-7-2014_FlyHi and Happy Valentine’s Day.  Today’s Photo Challenge is Love.  How fitting for a day all about love.  My photos are of my two greatest loves — my wonderful husband and our amazing son. These two men mean the world to me and I am so glad to have them as my family.  I love them very differently yet both fully and with all that I am.

So it got me to thinking, how can you illustrate or define love? As you know, there are many types of love and definitions. We love our mates and children differently, we love our families and friends in other ways, we love our pets in a different way, and there is our love of God and our faith.  All of these loves are valid and real to us.

To me love is — given every day, compassion, forgiveness, honesty, kindness, generosity, patience, partnership, unconditional, raw and messy at times, beautiful, passion, being there for the good and bad in life, support, and forever.

There is a line in the movie “Love Story” that has always bothered me.  “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”  I totally disagree.  To me, love means you should say you are sorry.  Not too much that it means nothing, but when needed it should be said.

We all make mistakes and hurt one another.  Yet, because of love we can say we are sorry, change our behavior, and forgive one another.  And then you can move past the problem and continue to love.

One of the best descriptions of love is in 1st Corinthians 13: 4-8. Kirk and I had this read on our wedding day.  It meant the world to both of us.  This is from the New International Version of the Bible:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Isn’t that beautiful?  If only we could love others that way.  We are called by Christ to love others — including our enemies and those who seem the least lovable.  All of us need to be loved by someone.  My hope and prayer is that we can be more loving to those around us.

Today I am thankful for:

  • My husband for loving me as I am and being an amazing partner in all things
  • Our son who is the light of our life and an amazing gift
  • My parents who taught me what love is all about
  • My siblings (and in-laws) who I love to be with and admire so very much
  • My cousins who are true and real friends
  • My in-laws who are a wonderful addition to my family
  • My aunts and uncles who have taught me so much
  • My friends who I treasure — both old and new
  • My grandparents who demonstrated their love for one another
  • My nieces and nephews who enrich my world and are great friends to Ian
  • Our school and church friends who mean so much to the three of and who are teaching Ian so many things
  • Our community and neighbors who make us feel truly at home

May you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day full of love!  Whether or not you have a special someone, I hope and pray that you will know that you are loved.

Two Late Anniversaries!

R2_Aug.6_19thAnniv.2Hi and Happy Friday.  I am a little bit late with the anniversary wishes to my sister and her husband and my brother and his wife.

On Wednesday, August 6, my brother and his lovely bride celebrated 20 years of marriage!  Yeah and congrats to the two of you – Richmond and Beckie!  They are in the top photo on their wedding day.

On Thursday, August 7, my sister and her husband celebrated 21 years of marriage.  Yeah to them too!  Congratulations to you Cindy and Cody.  Their photo is the second one.

I had the privilege of being in Richmond and Beckie’s wedding as one of the bridesmaids.  It was a lot of fun and our dresses were lovely — deep purple with white lace and lovely jewelry as the accent.  Now they are the parents to two great kids – Isaac and Rachel.

C2_Aug.7_20th.Anniv.1In Cindy and Cody’s wedding, I was the maid of honor and that was a lot of fun.  What an honor and a lovely service.  I liked these dresses too — green and cream and we carried daisies.  They have two kids as well — Gussie and Aiden.

I love the eight of them dearly.  I have learned so much about parenting from both of these amazing couples.  And, I learned how to be an aunt who spoils the kids from these four amazing cousins of Ian’s.  Love and hugs to all of you!

I am thrilled for all of them and these amazing milestones in marriage!  We actually come from a long line of marriages.  My parents have been married for 49 years, my in-laws have been married for nearly 54 years, my mother’s parents were married for 66 years, and my mother’s grandparents were married for 70+ years.

Isn’t that amazing?  I love knowing that there are people in the world who truly stay together until death do them part.   My grandparents and great-grandparents did just that.  And next summer we will celebrate my parent’s 50th anniversary.

Kirk and I got married 5 years after my sister so we will celebrate 16 years this fall.  We will catch up with the rest of them one of these days.

A few quotes about anniversaries:

  • “Our wedding was many years ago.  The celebration continues to this day.”  ~ Gene Perret
  • “The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds – they mature slowly.” ~ Peter De Vries
  • “Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.”  ~ Author Unknown
  • “Love is not singular except in syllable.” ~ Marvin Taylor
  • “True love stories never have endings.”  ~ Richard Bach

I grew up with one brother and one sister, and was thrilled in the mid-1990s to gain another brother and then another sister.  And, wonderful nieces and nephews were later added to the mix.

Happy 20th to Richmond and Beckie!   Happy 21st to Cindy and Cody!  Long may you love one another!

February 14 – Heart / Happy Valentine’s Day

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAHi and Happy Friday!  Happy Valentine’s Day as well.  Today’s photo challenge is Heart.  Here is a photo that I took last year of some hearts that my son made me in preschool.  They are very special and still cherished.

My valentine is his daddy and my hubby, Kirk.  I have loved this man for 15 years and counting.  He is my best friend, confident, lover, and true love.  I am so blessed to have him in my life.  Each year gets better with him and I grow to love him even more.

When he proposed to me, he gave me a set of a dozen silk red roses.  They are lovely and I still enjoy them very much.  He has always been good at giving me real flowers too — often for no special reason.  That to me is the most special.

As a mom of a sweet boy, I have a second and very special valentine.  Our son Ian truly is a light in our life.  He brings us such happiness, along with some frustration, but mainly good stuff.  He has taught us to live in the moment and for that I am truly thankful.

Love and hearts to you!  May you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Here are a few quotes about love and Valentine’s Day:

  • “Loving is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.”  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
  • “I don’t understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine’s Day.  When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon.”  ~Author Unknown
  • “Love – a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.”  ~Author Unknown
  • “If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?”  ~Author Unknown
  • “Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Grow old with me!  The best is yet to be.”  ~Robert Browning

A Taste of Winter / Monday’s Musings

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAHi and Happy Monday!  It is hard to believe that it’s already the last week of January.  Seems like the new year just started.

Saturday’s photo challenge was A Taste of Winter.  Here is a photo that I took a few weeks ago when we had a little bit of snow.  I like this holly bush in my yard. I meant to post this then but then got busy on a few things. You know how that goes, I am sure.

Part of this weekend was cold but then it was warmer than it’s been.  However, a cold snap is coming later today for the next few.  A much colder winter this year than we have had in a while. We still haven’t had much snow though, which is probably just as well.  I know of several people who have been dealing with a lot of it.

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Mondays’ Musings is something I may start on Monday mornings if I have a variety of items to write about.  I may not be using the word musings quite right but it sounds fun.

**This weekend was a good one and we had some down time, some time with friends, and then some time to play and get out of the house.

We went to dinner on Saturday night with one of my best friends.  We hadn’t seen her in months and it was so great to catch up.  She had been quite sick and thankfully, she is feeling better.

It was fun to hang out and visit and just be together.  I had truly missed seeing her and was so glad we were able to work it out.  Thank goodness for dear friends!

**On Sunday, we went to church and heard a great sermon about love and living like you are dying.  The pastor was talking about what true love is and that not only is it important to tell people we love them but also show to them.  He also wanted us to remember to be really and truly thankful for each and every day.  He mentioned that we are never promised tomorrow.  It was a thought-provoking sermon and one that was really well given.

I hadn’t realized how closely Ian was listening until he gave me a note just before bed.  He had asked me to write a few words down for him, but I didn’t know what he was working on.  It was the note, which states, “To Mommy From Ian.  Mommy, I will love you forever.”  Wow, how amazing and sweet is that.  I have to say I teared up and told him “I will love you forever too.”  He then kissed my hand and gave me a hug.

The love of a child — there is nothing like it.  So pure, and honest, and unconditional.  It is given just as Pastor was saying love is supposed to be. I was truly moved and was amazed at my son.  He truly is a blessing!

**Last night was the Grammy awards telecast.  I had seen some ads about it but then when the time came for it to come on, I was interested in other shows.  Two of them I watched were Downton Abbey and Sherlock, both on PBS.  Both of these are amazingly well written, clever, and full of amazing and rich characters.  Just like a favorite character in a great book, these are so rich and well-drawn that you almost wish you could meet them.  Well, at least I do.

The writing, dialogue, and acting are wonderful.  As a writer, I am inspired and in awe of the talents of the people who bring us these shows.  I laughed, cried, and laughed some more.  One of the funniest lines I have heard in a long time was, “He’s clueing for looks.”  I don’t want to mess up the plot if you haven’t seen it, but it was perfect for the situation and oh so funny!

***Those are a few of my musings for this morning.  Do you have any musings you’d like to share?  Please do! Hope you have a great day!

Tuesday Tunes – “What Do You Got?”

musicHi and Happy Tuesday.  How do you like that title?

It’s not my favorite but it is the name of a Bon Jovi song that I wanted to write about. So despite a few grammatical issues with the song, I do really like it and overlook it since it moves me.

We listened to it on the Bon Jovi Greatest Hits CD while returning from a trip on Saturday afternoon.  Ian loves this CD and loves to sing along with the songs.  I have to say that they are his favorite band so far and I do love that!

His favorite song on the CD is “Who Says You Can’t Go Home” with Jennifer Nettles of Sugarland.  He also likes “Wanted: Dead or Alive.”  It is such fun to hear his voice singing along with these songs that I have loved for a long time. Here is Ian playing a friend’s guitar a few years ago.  It is bigger than he is.

Ian.guitarIn 1988, a friend of mine and I went to see this great band in concert.  They were as good then as now.  It was a blast.  On Saturday, Ian told me he wanted to see them in concert.  Wouldn’t that be fun?!

The lyrics of “What Do You Got?” are very powerful and all about the importance of love. With my anniversary this week, it truly moved me when I heard it most recently.

I like that the band sings that despite all the success you could possibly imagine having, it doesn’t matter much without love. In fact one line of the song is, “If you ain’t got love, it’s all about keeping score.”

Isn’t that  true? In our quest to improve and get ahead, we can keep score and make that the important thing in our life.  When clearly, it isn’t.

I think that short of the line, “who do you hold in the dark of night,” love could be anyone special in your life.  Then again, you can cuddle with your child or another family member, and I sometimes do just that.

The love of a mate is amazing, as is the love of your child, your parents, siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, in-laws, grandparents, and friends.

Here are the lyrics:
“Everybody wants something, just a little more
We’re making a living and what we’re livin for
A rich man or a poor man, a pawn or king
You can live on the street, you can rule the rule
But you don’t mean one damn thing

(chorus)
What do you got, if you ain’t got love
Whatever you got, it just ain’t enough
You’re walking the road, but you’re goin nowhere
You’re tryin to find your way home, but there’s no one there
Who do you hold, in the dark of night
You wannt get up, but it’s worth the fight
You have the things, that you’ve been dreamin of

If you ain’t got someone, you’re afraid to lose
Everybody needs just one, someone to tell them the truth
Maybe I’m a dreamer, but I still believe
I believe in hope, I believe the change can get us off our knees

(repeat chorus)

If you ain’t got love, it’s all just keeping score
If you ain’t got love, what the hell we doing it for

And it continues with another few lines and chorus.  I like these lyrics in that they talk about the fact that love is important.

I hope that you have love in your life and someone who you can share your dreams and hopes and sad things with and someone who will be honest with you.  As I mentioned, this person can be any number of people in your life.  May you have love and be loved.

I wonder if we can truly appreciate the love we have in our life.  And, wonder if we can share it with others?  I certainly hope so.

Love and Birthday Wishes

birthday_KarenHi and Happy Friday!

Today is the birthday of one of my dearest friends — Karen.  Happy Birthday to you dear Karen!!!!

The two of us met at work and have remained friends.  She and her husband Rich are a blessing to me and I am very grateful to know them!

And, before Kirk and I sold our first house, Rich and Karen helped us paint it.  This was a big project and I was pregnant with Ian at the time.  He enjoys hearing the stories about that project.

When Ian was baptized, they were there with us to celebrate.  We have enjoyed many milestones together and laughed and cried about many things through the years.

We don’t see each other as much as we’d like but always have fun when we do get together.  I hope that she and her hubby have a great birthday celebration planned for her!

Karen, may you be blessed and have another fantastic year!  Hope to see you again soon.  I miss you my friend.

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POD_Challenge_July_5_LoveToday’s Photo-A-Day Challenge is Love.

The picture that I chose for today is of my grandparents on their honeymoon in 1930.

It clearly is a photo that I didn’t take but is one that I have always loved of the two of them.

They taught me a lot about love, friendship, fun, and the importance of family.  They also helped teach a few generations of the importance of gathering together at a special place.

Grandma and Grandpa loved one another, their children, their grandchildren, friends, and other family members.  They also loved their careers and were both amazing teachers.  And, Grandpa was a brilliant writer.

I like to think that my siblings, cousins, and I inherited a lot of their talents and compassion.

Before my grandpa died, they were married for 66 years.

I am thankful to them for teaching me that love is more than just a word.  It is a way to live and an action to take.

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

Mom and Dad.weddingToday, June 18, is my parent’s anniversary.

Happy Anniversary to you Mom and Dad!

Here they are as young adults on the day of their wedding.  Aren’t they a fine-looking couple?  I sure think so!

They have taught me about real and unconditional love.

They have taught me about compromise, faith, forgiveness, happiness, and what a family bond is.

The have taught me about the importance of spending quality time with family and friends.

They have also taught me how to be a loving and kind spouse and a loving parent who disciplines and teaches with love.

I thank them and appreciate their example!!

I love that they are still crazy about each other and love to spend time together.

They also love to spend time with family, friends, and especially their grandchildren.

It is a real blessing to be a part of this family!!

Here are a few quotes about Anniversaries.  Enjoy!

  • “An anniversary is a time to celebrate the joys of today, the memories of yesterday, and the hopes of tomorrow.”  ~Author Unknown
  • “True love stories never have endings.”  ~Richard Bach
  • “To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule:  Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room.  Good fire, good marriage, same rule.”  ~Marnie Reed Crowell
  • “Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.”  ~Author Unknown

Congrats to these oldyweds!  Love you both so much!

Happy Father’s Day to My Wonderful Dad

SRP.42_Patti_and_Bill.1968There is a quote which states, “Any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad.” — Author Unknown

That is my dad — special and unique!  Happy Father’s Day to you Dad!

I am sad that we can’t be together to celebrate this special day for you.  Please know that I am thinking of you and look forward to a celebration very soon!

I thank the Lord for my dad!  He has taught me so much and is so loving!

Here I am with Dad in Mission Beach, California when I was a baby.  I loved the water and sand then and still love it today.  And, as I written before, I have many great pictures and memories of my dad with me and my family as well as with dad and the next generation.   That is truly special!

SRP.72.Bill.Mairzy.Patti.late1960sThis next picture was on the porch of the beach house when I was a little older.  I am pictured with both my parents.

This house has always been like a second home to our family.  We are so very blessed to have this location.  Thanks to both of my parents for enabling us to be able to have these vacations.  They are such a huge part of my childhood memories!

Patti_Dad_2006This photo is of the two of us in 2006 at the San Diego airport.  As you can see, the family really loves that city in California.

Dad has always loved me and my brother and sister and for that I am truly and deeply thankful.

One time when I was in college a friend of mine told me how unusual it was that dad truly listened to me and my siblings.  Until hearing that, I had taken him and his attention for granted.  It is sad to realize that not all kids have that.

I was and still am so fortunate to have a great relationship with my dad.  We live only 30 minutes away from one another so there are lots of get-togethers and I love that.

Dad is one of Ian’s favorite people to play with since Dad gets on the floor with him and is at Ian’s level.  It is beautiful to watch.

My dad truly knows what is important in life and savors the time he has with his family.  He is kind, patient, loving, very intelligent, caring, concerned about others, enjoys reading, drinking his morning coffee, biking, traveling, watching sports, playing with and walking his new dog Riley, listening to and singing music, eating ice cream, and is interested in current events.

He had two amazing careers and was wonderful with all of his co-workers or students.  I worked in the same building as him for several years.  It was an honor to talk with my co-workers about him.  They thought the world of him and how fair he was with everyone.

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERANow he is crazy about all 5 of his grandkids.  He loves to play with them and interact in their various activities.  In this picture, he and Ian were enjoying smores together.

Thanks Dad for being you!  I am so very blessed to now be friends with you and have you be a fantastic grandpa to my son.

Thanks also for loving Mom, Cindy, Richmond, and me so much.  Thank you to for welcoming your daughter-in-law and two sons-in-law and all of the kids. You have truly taught us the model of a fine man, husband, father, and grandfather!

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Happy Father’s Day also to my wonderful brother Richmond who I love very much!  Also, to my father-in-law, cousins, brothers-in-law, uncles, and friends, Happy Father’s Day.   And, another special wish to my husband, Kirk.  Yesterday, I wrote a special Dad’s Day wish to him.

For those who have lost your fathers, may you remember them fondly.  For those who still have your father, may you be thankful for the time you have and appreciate the relationship.   May you have a wonderful and very blessed Father’s Day!!