Love One Another

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA“Love is all you need.”  “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” “I will always love you.” “Love one another as I have loved you.” 

Love comes in many shapes and sizes.  There are many types of love and many things that define love.  As you know, we just celebrated the big love day of the year, Valentines’ Day. Well, it is a day that stores and restaurants try to make the big day.  We are encouraged to spend a marked up amount on flowers, eat out, and spend a lot on cards.

That is fine but why not enjoy a home cooked meal with our mate and children?  Why not enjoy our own tradition of handwriting a special card?  Why not have both of you sign the same card as Kirk and I did this year? And, why not remember to love and show our love each and every day?

Don’t get me wrong, I have enjoyed the fun of Valentine’s Day, the fancy dinners out, and the dozen red roses. There is nothing like that in the early stages of a relationship. But, more importantly, I like when Kirk gives me flowers just because, or has asked if I’d like to eat out after a tiring day at work, or wants to have a date night in the middle of the week.

I also like to do special things for him just because. And I like that we tell each other I love you every day.  And, we tell our son that as well. We also regularly demonstrate love to one other by the things we help with around the house, the projects, and the teamwork.

Before meeting Kirk, I had many years without a special someone. it could be tough at times but I did my best to enjoy time with my friends and family. I also learned to love myself and figure out what I wanted in a relationship. That was a blessing and helped me appreciate my relationship even more.

At the top of the blog, I listed a few quotes about love.  Here are my thoughts on them.

  • Love is all you need.  This is from a great Beatles song that I really like.  To me, we need more than love to have relationships work.  We also need trust, honesty, forgiveness, and patience.  Clearly love needs to be part of it since without it, it is very hard to have the rest.
  • Love means never having to say you’re sorry.  This was made famous in The Love Story movie.  I totally disagree with this sentiment.  To me, love means saying sorry often and as needed. Not so much that it means nothing, but enough to show we realize when we made mistakes.
  • I will always love you. This is from one of my favorite Celine Dion songs and is lovely. I agree that you can always love someone. However, you may not always like them and can get frustrated with them. True love means sticking with them through it all and always being there for each other. And loving unconditionally.
  • Love one another as I have loved you.  Christ told us to do this and I think we are lacking with this at times.  We seem to be a society of mistrust, gossip, and a lot of negativity.  I hope and pray that we can get back to truly loving others and wanting the best for each other.  People often try to take credit for another’s accomplishments or blame people when something doesn’t work out.  None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes. My hope is that we can find a way to be more loving and kind.

Love is an amazing gift and something that is rare and precious.  It is to be treasured and respected.  It is to be given freely and without expecting anything in return.  And, it is to be given without condition.

The loves in my life are:

  • My husband who I cherish
  • Our son who is a gift from the Lord and a blessing each day
  • My parents who taught me what love means
  • My siblings and their spouses who I adore
  • My nieces and nephews who I am fascinated by
  • My cousins who I have shared so much with
  • My aunts and uncles who love me like their own
  • My grandparents who I miss each day and loved talking with
  • My in-laws who welcomed me into their family
  • My lifetime friends who I have laughed and cried with
  • My newer friends who I am enjoying getting to know
  • My friends from work, school, and church who are so special
  • My loved ones who have passed and are still missed

I wonder if I will truly remember to love as Christ loved me.  I am going to do my best to do just that.  My prayer is that we all have love and can truly love others.

Happy Anniversary Kirk!

Our Wedding Day“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – from 1st Corinthians 13

Happy 17th Anniversary to my hubby Kirk! Here we are on our wedding day.  We were married at the church where we met. The pastor who married us was my pastor as I was growing up, he confirmed me, and is a longtime family friend. His message to us about love and marriage was the perfect start for us. Also, we heard a reading from 1st Corinthians 13 about love.

My aunt who is an amazing pianist played some special family songs prior to the wedding, and our dear family and friends were there to cheer us on and celebrate the start of our family.  And, the choir sang us a blessing at the end of the wedding.  It was such a special day.

At our reception, a dear friend was the caterer and the food was terrific. She made the two of us plates of food. We then enjoyed them that night at our condo. I danced with both Kirk and my dad at the reception and visited with some great people. We also had time with our family and so many others.

Since then we have had a great marriage. We are a team and work well together.  Not to say things are perfect but we have found our groove and truly compliment each other. We have been through struggles and hard times and have learned a lot over the years. I am so thankful for Kirk and blessed to be his wife. I didn’t meet him until I was 30 years old. When I did, my entire life changed and he was well worth the wait.

I love this man truly and deeply and love that we have such a wonderful child. These two guys are amazing blessings to me. My favorite place to be is with these two at our house – whether it is talking as we wake up in the morning to hugs and giggles before bed, whether it is eating our breakfast to munching on popcorn as we watch a favorite movie.

This year we celebrate 17 years of married life. The gifts for this anniversary are furniture, shells, and watches. We recently purchased new couches and we collected shells while at the beach. So those gifts are covered. It is funny that I was thinking about getting a new watch.  I can call it another anniversary gift.

A few quotes about marriage:

  • Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work. ~ Author Unknown
  • The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds — they mature slowly. ~ Peter De Vries
  • A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year. ~ Paul Sweeney
  • Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day. ~ Gene Perret

How do I love thee Kirk, let me count the ways.  I love your sense of humor, I love our jokes and inside stories, I love your strength, I love that you help so much at our home, I love that you are my soul mate and love for life. I love that you are such an amazing father to our son. I love you and always will.

February 14 – Love

POD_3-7-2014_FlyHi and Happy Valentine’s Day.  Today’s Photo Challenge is Love.  How fitting for a day all about love.  My photos are of my two greatest loves — my wonderful husband and our amazing son. These two men mean the world to me and I am so glad to have them as my family.  I love them very differently yet both fully and with all that I am.

So it got me to thinking, how can you illustrate or define love? As you know, there are many types of love and definitions. We love our mates and children differently, we love our families and friends in other ways, we love our pets in a different way, and there is our love of God and our faith.  All of these loves are valid and real to us.

To me love is — given every day, compassion, forgiveness, honesty, kindness, generosity, patience, partnership, unconditional, raw and messy at times, beautiful, passion, being there for the good and bad in life, support, and forever.

There is a line in the movie “Love Story” that has always bothered me.  “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”  I totally disagree.  To me, love means you should say you are sorry.  Not too much that it means nothing, but when needed it should be said.

We all make mistakes and hurt one another.  Yet, because of love we can say we are sorry, change our behavior, and forgive one another.  And then you can move past the problem and continue to love.

One of the best descriptions of love is in 1st Corinthians 13: 4-8. Kirk and I had this read on our wedding day.  It meant the world to both of us.  This is from the New International Version of the Bible:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Isn’t that beautiful?  If only we could love others that way.  We are called by Christ to love others — including our enemies and those who seem the least lovable.  All of us need to be loved by someone.  My hope and prayer is that we can be more loving to those around us.

Today I am thankful for:

  • My husband for loving me as I am and being an amazing partner in all things
  • Our son who is the light of our life and an amazing gift
  • My parents who taught me what love is all about
  • My siblings (and in-laws) who I love to be with and admire so very much
  • My cousins who are true and real friends
  • My in-laws who are a wonderful addition to my family
  • My aunts and uncles who have taught me so much
  • My friends who I treasure — both old and new
  • My grandparents who demonstrated their love for one another
  • My nieces and nephews who enrich my world and are great friends to Ian
  • Our school and church friends who mean so much to the three of and who are teaching Ian so many things
  • Our community and neighbors who make us feel truly at home

May you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day full of love!  Whether or not you have a special someone, I hope and pray that you will know that you are loved.

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

Mom and Dad.weddingToday, June 18, is my parent’s anniversary.

Happy Anniversary to you Mom and Dad!

Here they are as young adults on the day of their wedding.  Aren’t they a fine-looking couple?  I sure think so!

They have taught me about real and unconditional love.

They have taught me about compromise, faith, forgiveness, happiness, and what a family bond is.

The have taught me about the importance of spending quality time with family and friends.

They have also taught me how to be a loving and kind spouse and a loving parent who disciplines and teaches with love.

I thank them and appreciate their example!!

I love that they are still crazy about each other and love to spend time together.

They also love to spend time with family, friends, and especially their grandchildren.

It is a real blessing to be a part of this family!!

Here are a few quotes about Anniversaries.  Enjoy!

  • “An anniversary is a time to celebrate the joys of today, the memories of yesterday, and the hopes of tomorrow.”  ~Author Unknown
  • “True love stories never have endings.”  ~Richard Bach
  • “To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule:  Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room.  Good fire, good marriage, same rule.”  ~Marnie Reed Crowell
  • “Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.”  ~Author Unknown

Congrats to these oldyweds!  Love you both so much!