The Blessing of Friendship

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERAToday is the birthday of one of my oldest friends.  I don’t mean oldest by age but oldest as in the one who I have known the longest — except for family members. Happy 40-something Birthday to you dear Tammy!

My earliest memory of us being friends was in second grade.  We may have known each other before that too, but I just don’t remember.  Do you remember Tammy?

While in second grade, we had the same teacher Mr. Toler.  He was a fantastic teacher and one of the best.  One day that I still remember, we got in trouble for talking in class.  He pulled us out of the class and sent us to the coat closet to try to behave again.  Well, needless to say, we still had too much to discuss.  The punishment didn’t quite work since we kept talking.  Our parents were both called I think.

In addition to talking, we have always loved to laugh.  She is one of my favorite ones to laugh with.  We liked to laugh with our younger sisters too.  The four of us had a blast together! I hope that the four of us and our families can get together soon.

One of the nicest things that Tammy ever did was surprise me by attending my wedding.  The day before the wedding, she called me and said she wished she could be there. Little did I know she was downstairs.  When she came up the stairs, I screamed and starting crying happy tears.  It was so special to have her in town for our wedding.  If I had known, I would have asked her to be in the wedding.

So that day, I had my sister, my sister-in-law, and my best friends from elementary school, high school, and college there.  Five very special women were there for the big day and that meant the world to me. I am still friends with all of them and keep in regular touch with all of them.  What an amazing blessing that is!

Long-term friendships are few and rare so I am very thankful to still be friends with Tammy.  Although we don’t see each other as much as I’d like to, we seem to always pick right back up where we left off.  And, we always have a great time.  And, Ian had a blast playing last time with her son.  Hopefully the boys can get together again.

This photo is of the two of us the last time we were together at the beach two years ago.  Tammy, hope to see you again soon!

Hope you have a wonderful birthday Tammy!  Thanks so much for the blessing of your friendship!!    And, just between us, Cindy, and Sonya, AGADKTGA!!!!!!!  GGP rock!!!

Happy Birthday Jennifer!

Jen.1Happy Birthday to you dear Jennifer!!!  Today is my friend Jennifer’s birthday.  And, since it is also Throwback Thursday, I decided to include some photos of the two of us from many years ago.

Jennifer is a friend who I met in high school.  We were in chorus and show choir together and had a ball.  We went on a few trips with the chorus our senior year with many other friends.  I have such fond memories of this time in our lives.

This first picture was just after we graduated.  We were ready to take on the world and both went off to separate colleges.  We still stayed in touch and remained tight. For that I am truly thankful.

Jen.2This next picture was taken at the back of Jen’s car while we were both home from school.  We loved riding around town in this Z28.  I love our big late-80s hair!

Through the years, we have remained dear friends and have been there for each other through good times and bad.  I love having Jen in my life and always have.

A few times, we were more distant than others but always found our way back to spending regular time together.   We still often see each other and always have a great time.  We still can talk about almost anything.

As Bette Midler said in the movie “Beaches,” my memory of Jen is very long.  And wonderful and full of happiness, some sadness and all of life’s experiences.  It is a true blessing to have Jen as my dear friend.

To Jen, I want to say thanks so much for being you and for being such a great friend to me over all of these years.  How many again?  Many wonderful years!  Thanks for inspiring me, teaching me about being a mother, and for being you.

For my dear friend, a few quotes about friendship:

  • “Friendship isn’t a big thing — it’s a million little things.” ~Author Unknown
  • “Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.” ~Sicilian Proverb
  • “A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’re not so bad.” ~Arnold H. Glasgow
  • “The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you.” ~Elbert Hubbard
  • “A good friend is cheaper than therapy.” ~Author Unknown
  • “A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.”~Donna Roberts
  • “Friends are those rare people who ask how you are and then wait for the answer.” ~Author Unknown

Jen, may you have a wonderful and truly blessed day!  Happy Birthday!!!!

My Gal Friends Rock!

girls 2Yes, I’ll say again, my gal friends or girl friends rock!

They are so very precious to me, yet I don’t get to see most of them very often.

For a while now, we have been splitting our time in two places — one of which includes me with a house full of guys.  It is fun to travel and see another place, but I must admit that after a while, I really miss talking to other women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with these guys — including my hubby and son — but there is nothing like talking over something with a girl friend.  Gals, you know what I mean, right?!

Here I am pictured with (from left) my cousin Pam, my sister Cindy, and my sister-in-law Beckie.  I am at far left.  We had such a fun visit that summer!!

This week and next are the birthdays of two of my girl friends who I have known the longest.  Jennifer I have known since high school and Dawn since our freshman year in college.  I have written about both of them in other blogs, such as https://patticates247.wordpress.com/2012/05/18/happy-birthday-dawn-jennifer/.

I love that we are still close and can pick up where we left off with one another!  We can look at each other and laugh about some inside secret or read a posting and instantly have a connection or a shared memory.

A few gals who I have known longer than these two are my dear friends Tammy, a friend since elementary school, and my cousin Pam who I have been close to for as long as I remember, and my sister Cindy who I have known since she was born.

Again, I wish I could be with them more but they all understand and lead their own busy lives.  I just love that we can pick up where we have left off when we talk or see one another.

And, a few dear friends that I worked with through the years are also very special — Karen, Gaye, Michele, DiAnn, Linda, Phyllis, Deborah, Brenda, Angela, and a few others as well.  I have fond memories of each of them.  The cool thing is that I am friends with all of them on Facebook so I can keep up with them!

I am fortunate to also be close to two of my sisters-in-law, Beckie and Diane, and getting to better know another three others — Linda Hope, Linda, and Anne.  They have been fabulous additions to my life and I so enjoy time with this as well.

My wonderful cousins also rock (Val, Chris, Sue, Jen, Marit, Sarah, Robbi, Trish, Tanya and Dawn).  And, I am blessed to have friends from high school who I have planned reunions with and friends from college who I keep in touch with.  All of these great women are so important to me.  I won’t name everyone since I am afraid that I will leave someone out and I don’t want to do that.  In fact, I may already have.  I am sorry!

Just last year I met a few amazing women at a writer’s conference.  Among them, I immediately hit it off with Ann and Vicki.  I saw them this spring again and we had a great visit.  They both have self-published books and inspire me.

There is nothing like spending time at having tea, shopping, going to a movie, dessert, or a restaurant with my girl friends!  Talking and laughing or commiserating and crying are what we can do together.  Each of these moments is truly special.

When thinking about girl friends, I thought of television shows and movies which highlight female friendship.  My two favorites are Golden Girls and Designing Women.  Both of these had four amazing women who were strong, funny, and tightly knit.   And, they cracked me up.

A few more recent favorites are Hot In Cleveland and Sex In the City.  Again four close-knit women — isn’t that interesting?  These shows also make me laugh and I enjoy watching the dynamic of these friends.

Some other shows and movies that I thought of are:

  • Girlfriends
  • Rizzoli and Isles
  • Army Wives
  • Cagney and Lacey
  • Friends
  • The Facts of Life
  • Gilmore Girls
  • I Love Lucy
  • The Mary Tyler Moore Show
  • Rhoda
  • Steel Magnolias
  • Thelma and Louise

What can you think of?  Are there other shows that I didn’t include?  Please let me and our readers know!!!

What do you like to do with your girl friends?  I also would love to hear from you on this.

May your life be blessed and rich with friendship and dear friends!

I wonder what fun and new things I will be able to do with my girl friends?  Can’t wait to discover!   I also wonder how soon I will see them.  Very soon I hope!