Try a Little Kindness

Playground.4When I was growing up, I was taught to be kind to others and to be loving and respectful.  I was taught that differences are okay and that all people have value. My husband and I are now teaching that to our son.  It truly concerns me how far away from that we now are.  Nowadays, so many people seem to think it’s okay to be mean to others and treat them badly.

We have a person running for president of our country who in my opinion is a bully.  He has insulted people of a different race, religion, sex, and views than his own.  Rather than building up others, he tears them down every chance he gets.  He treats others with disdain or worse, outright insults and hateful rhetoric.  The scary thing is that he has quite a few followers who seem to be going along with him.

Is that really what we have become — a nation of hate, skepticism, doubt, racism, sexism, and intolerance?  I sure hope not.  And, I pray not with every fiber of my being. I know we have always had all of these things and probably always will.  But with many civil rights movements over the years, it seemed things had been changing.

I hope we aren’t going backwards.  And, I hope and pray that we have learned from mistakes and travesties that have happened.  There is always more work to be done and I hope that we will continue to do this work.  After all, we do have much in common, despite the differences.

America is an amazing melting pot and my prayer is that it will continue to be just that.

Here are some things I want us to remember:

  • May we continue to teach others how to love.
  • May we forgive and learn from others.
  • May we try a little kindness.
  • May we be helpful to others.
  • May we remember to build one another up, rather than tearing each other down.
  • May we not have a leader who will teach our children that it is okay to be rude and belittle those who you don’t agree with.
  • May we not let hate take over.
  • May we remember that we are more alike than we are different.
  • May we never repeat certain things in our history and truly learn from those who have gone before us.
  • May we have hearts of love and forgiveness.
  • May we have healthy and civil debates.
  • May we stand up for what we believe without insult and harm to others.
  • May we think before we speak.
  • May we teach our children love and kindness, not hate and rudeness.

May we also remember the words from the Love Chapter from the Bible (1st Corinthians 13:4-8).  This is how we should love:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

I wonder if we as a people can love like this?  My prayer is that we can and will.

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Happy Anniversary Kirk!

Our Wedding Day“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – from 1st Corinthians 13

Happy 17th Anniversary to my hubby Kirk! Here we are on our wedding day.  We were married at the church where we met. The pastor who married us was my pastor as I was growing up, he confirmed me, and is a longtime family friend. His message to us about love and marriage was the perfect start for us. Also, we heard a reading from 1st Corinthians 13 about love.

My aunt who is an amazing pianist played some special family songs prior to the wedding, and our dear family and friends were there to cheer us on and celebrate the start of our family.  And, the choir sang us a blessing at the end of the wedding.  It was such a special day.

At our reception, a dear friend was the caterer and the food was terrific. She made the two of us plates of food. We then enjoyed them that night at our condo. I danced with both Kirk and my dad at the reception and visited with some great people. We also had time with our family and so many others.

Since then we have had a great marriage. We are a team and work well together.  Not to say things are perfect but we have found our groove and truly compliment each other. We have been through struggles and hard times and have learned a lot over the years. I am so thankful for Kirk and blessed to be his wife. I didn’t meet him until I was 30 years old. When I did, my entire life changed and he was well worth the wait.

I love this man truly and deeply and love that we have such a wonderful child. These two guys are amazing blessings to me. My favorite place to be is with these two at our house – whether it is talking as we wake up in the morning to hugs and giggles before bed, whether it is eating our breakfast to munching on popcorn as we watch a favorite movie.

This year we celebrate 17 years of married life. The gifts for this anniversary are furniture, shells, and watches. We recently purchased new couches and we collected shells while at the beach. So those gifts are covered. It is funny that I was thinking about getting a new watch.  I can call it another anniversary gift.

A few quotes about marriage:

  • Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work. ~ Author Unknown
  • The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds — they mature slowly. ~ Peter De Vries
  • A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year. ~ Paul Sweeney
  • Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day. ~ Gene Perret

How do I love thee Kirk, let me count the ways.  I love your sense of humor, I love our jokes and inside stories, I love your strength, I love that you help so much at our home, I love that you are my soul mate and love for life. I love that you are such an amazing father to our son. I love you and always will.

The Greatest of These is Love

Our Wedding DayHappy Valentine’s Day to you!

There are many things I could write about Valentine’s Day, but the main one is that the day is all about love.  Love is a beautiful and wonderful thing.

I love the people in my life.  They include my husband, my son, my parents, siblings, in-laws, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, and friends.  All of these people are dear to me and well loved.  Each one holds a special place in my heart!!

The best definition of love to me is the Love Chapter in the Bible — 1st Corinthians 13.  At my wedding to Kirk, this chapter was read.  It was meaningful then as it is now.  The picture is from our wedding.  As you can see we look like kids.

This chapter is quoted below from the New International Version——-

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

“If I give all that I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.

“But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; and where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

“For we know in part and we prophecy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.  When  I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.  Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.  Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

“And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.  But the greatest of these is love.”

I especially like the part that says — love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Think about that — always loving like that can be tough at times but that is exactly what love is.

On this Valentine’s Day, I hope you can appreciate this kind of love if you have it in your life.  If not, I hope and pray that you will find it one day.  God Bless!!