This has been a tough week. As you know from my posting yesterday, I have some very sick relatives and a friend who are dealing with fighting cancer. Each of these people means so much to me. I hope and pray that they will receive the treatments that they need to get better.
The hard part is that one of them received a malignant diagnosis and this breaks my heart. I talked yesterday about choosing to be as positive as I can be, but the pain is still there since it was such a shock to hear this news. I hate to think of this special person no longer being in my life and I don’t want to. However, I want to spend the time that I have left with this person and offer comfort and help and try to make the most of it.
As with any tough news, it takes a while to process. This is one of those weekends. I have also been thinking of a few friends and relatives who have lost loved ones recently or a milestone of that loss. That too is heartbreaking. To say goodbye is so hard and there is no right way to grieve. I took a class in college that was incredibly hard to fathom at the time but I am so glad that I did. It was about grief and the stages of it and that it can take a while.
Two things just came to my mind. One was the best advice that I ever received from a dear friend. He was a paramedic with more than 20 years experience and had seen it all. I was a young professional just out of college and starting my first job. This man told me “Never be a grave hugger.” He meant to always tell your loved ones that you love them and to never leave something unsaid. He knew only too well and had seen how precious life is and how fleeting. This was truly the best piece of advice I have ever received. Thanks to you GD!
The other was our recent sermon series at my church. The pastor based it on the amazing Tim McGraw song, “Live Like You Were Dying.” A few of the keys that our Pastor expanded upon were from the chorus, “I loved deeper, and I spoke sweeter, and I gave forgiveness I’d been denying.” Aren’t those powerful words? So important to remember and sometimes so hard to do.
We all get so caught up in the day-to-day of life and sometimes things that don’t really matter in the long run. The times when we can share with our loved ones, tell them we love them and take the extra time to help each other are so very special and important. May we all try to find the time to stop and smell the roses as it were.
Today, I want to say a pray for my friends and family who are suffering and sad and in pain. And, I also want to pray for my son who is fighting bronchitis this weekend. He is much better today and that is a real blessing.
“Dear Lord, please stretch out your healing hand upon those receiving treatment. Please guide the physicians, nurses, and all involved in their care. In your mercy, please hear my prayer. (at church we say our instead of my, but I wanted to use my in this case)
“Help us, the families and friends of those suffering to be strong and help them through the darkest time. May we be there to listen, pray, commiserate, give hugs and love, and help one another. In your mercy, hear my prayer.
“May we take no moment for granted and spend the time with our loved ones as we can. Help us to love and not be afraid to share that love. In your mercy, please hear my prayer.
“Lord, I also want to take this time to say thank you for all of the blessings you have given me and all of the times you have shown me how much you care for me and my loved ones.
“Thanks also for our dear and sweet son. He is healing and getting back to himself by talking to me all day about his toys and interests. He truly is an amazing blessing.
“May I learn to live my life as Ian does by enjoying every moment to the fullest and totally being in each moment. He has truly taught me so very much and I am so thankful for that. Amen.”
May you too be blessed!